Ọkùnrin kan pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀ wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Àwọn obinrin ti ó bá́ fẹ́ ọkọ kan naa ni à ńpè ni “Orogún”. Ìwà oriṣiriṣi ni ó ma ńhàn ni ilé olórogún, àrù̀n iyàwó ti ó ńjalè, purọ́, ṣe àgbèrè, aláisàn, ti ó ńṣe òfófó, àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ, lè má hàn bi ó bá jẹ́ obinrin kan pẹ̀lú ọkọ rẹ ni ó ńgbe gẹ́gẹ́ bi ti ayé ode oni. Bi iyàwó bá ti pé meji, mẹta, bi àrù́n yi bá hàn si iyàwó keji, èébú dé, pataki ni àsikò ijà.
Ni ẹ̀sin ibilẹ̀, oye iyàwó ti ọkùnrin lè fẹ́, ko niye, pàtàki Ọba, Olóyè, Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti akikanjú ni àwùjọ. Bi àwọn ti ó ni ipò giga tabi òkìkí ni àwùjọ kò fẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀, ará ilú á fi obinrin ta wọn lọ́rẹ. Ẹ̀sin igbàlódé pàtàki, ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ ti din àṣà ikó-binrin-jọ kù. Òfin ẹlẹ́sin igbàgbọ́ ni “ọkọ kan àti aya kan”. Bi o ti jẹ́ pé ẹ̀sin Musulumi gbà ki “Ọkùnrin lè fẹ́ iyàwó titi dé mẹrin”, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin Musulumi igbàlódé ńsá fún kikó iyàwó jọ.
Fẹlá Kúti fẹ́ iyàwó mẹta-din-lọgbọn ni ọjọ kan – Fela Kuti married 27 wives in one day
Yorùbá ni “Òriṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé nú”. Inú obinrin ti wọn fẹ́ iyàwó tẹ̀lé kò lè dùn dé inú, nitori eyi, kò lè fi gbogbo ọkàn rẹ tán ọkọ rẹ mọ, owú jijẹ á bẹ̀rẹ̀. Iyàwó kékeré lè dé ilé ri àbùkù ọkọ ti iyálé mú mọ́ra. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oló-rogún kiki ijà àti ariwo laarin àwọn iyàwó àti àwọn ọmọ naa. Diẹ̀ ninú ọkùnrin ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ló ni igbádùn. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin ti ó kó obinrin jọ ni ó ńsọ ẹ̀mi wọn nù ni ọjọ́ ai pẹ́ nitori ai ni ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ àti àisàn ti bi bá obinrin púpọ̀ lò pọ̀ lè fà. Nitori eyi, ọkùnrin ti ó bá fẹ́ kó iyàwó jọ nilati múra gidigidi fun ohun ti ó ma gbẹ̀hìn àṣà yi.
ENGLISH LANGUAGE
Polygamy is common among the Yoruba people. The women that are married to the same husband are called “Co-wives”. There are various characters in a polygamous home, defects such as: a wife that is stealing, lying, engaged in adultery, the sick ones, the tale bearers/gossiping etc; which may not be glaring if it is just one wife to a man living in the same house as common as it is nowadays. Once the wives becomes two or three, and the defect of one is exposed to the second wife, source of abuse is established especially during a quarrel/fight.
In the traditional religion, a man can marry as many women, particularly, a King, Chief, Wealthy men and men of valour in the society. Even if these prominent people in the society do not want to marry many wives, ladies are given to them as gift for a wife. The modern religion, particularly Christianity has caused a reduction in the culture of polygamy. The Christian Law advocates for “One man, one wife”. Even though the Islamic religion permits “A man to marry up to four wives”, many modern men are running away from polygamy.
According to the Yoruba adage “The prayer of a woman to the god of heaven to have a co-wife/rival is not sincere”. A woman whose husband took another wife cannot be said to be sincerely happy, as a result, she may no longer put her confidence in such a man, and jealousy has begun. The younger wife may join the home to discover their husband’s short comings which had been tolerated by the first wife. Many polygamous home is full of fighting and rancour between the wives and also the children. Only few polygamous men enjoy polygamy. Many polygamous men die untimely due to lack of peace of mind and sickness linked to multiple sex. As a result of this, men who want to engage in polygamy must be well prepared for the consequences of this culture.
Originally posted 2014-06-10 18:00:13. Republished by Blog Post Promoter