Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

“Ẹrù fún Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀” – “Traditional Bridal List”

Apá Kini – Part One

Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìnáwó nla ni ìgbéyàwó ìbílẹ̀, ṣùgbọ́n gẹ́gẹ́ bi òwe Yorùbá “Bi owó ti mọ ni oògùn nmọ”, bi agbára ọkọ ìyàwó àti ìdílé bá ti tó ni ìnáwó ti tó.

Ẹrù ìgbéyàwó ayé òde òní ti yàtọ si ẹru ayé àtijọ́ nitori àwọn Yorùbá ti o wa ni àjò nibiti ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ẹrù yi kò ti wúlò, nitori èyi ni a ṣe kọ àwọn ẹrù ti a lè fi dipò pàtàki fún àwọn ti ó wà lájò.

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

Traditional Marriage is an expensive event, but according to Yoruba proverb “The amount of your money will determine the worth of your medicine”, meaning that the amount expended can be determined groom and bridegroom and their family’s wealth or purse.

The Bridal list of the modern time are slightly different because of the Yoruba abroad where most of the traditional items are not useful hence the suggestion of substitute.

ẸRÙ TI ÌYÀWÓ – BRIDAL PERSONAL LIST
YORÙBÁ	ENGLISH	ÌYÈ	QTY	DÍPÒ	SUBSTITUTE
Bíbélì/Koran	Bible/ Quoran	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Kò kan dandan	Not compulsory
Òrùka	Ring	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Ẹ̀gbà ọwọ́
Agboòrùn	Umbrella	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs
Bẹ̀mbẹ́	Tin Box	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs	Àpóti Ìrìn-nà	Travelling Box
Ohun Ẹ̀ṣọ́	Jewellery	Odidi Kan	1 Complete Set	Wúrà, Fàdákà tàbi Ìlẹ̀kẹ̀	Gold/Silver or Bead Jewelry
Aago ọwọ	Wrist Watch	Ẹyọ Kan	1 pcs
Aṣọ Ànkàrá	Cotton Print	Ìgàn mẹrin	4 bundle	Aṣọ òkèrè	Lace or Guinea Brocade
Àdìrẹ	Tie & Dye Cotton	Ìgàn mẹrin	4 bundle
Aṣọ Òfi/Òkè	Traditional woven fabric	Odidi kan	1 Complete Set	Kẹ̀kẹ́ ìgbọ́mọ sọ́kọ̀ tàbi ti ọmọ kiri	Car Sit or Buggy
Gèlè̀	Head Ties	Ẹyọ Mẹrin	4 pcs	A lè yọ gèlè lára aṣọ	Separate 1.6yds from fabric for Headtie
Bàtà àti Àpò	Shoe & Bag	Odidi Meji	2 sets	Mú àpò tó bá bàtà mu	Mix & Match bag & shoe
Sálúbàtà	Slippers/Sandal	Meji	2 pairs
Ọja Aṣọ òfì	Baby Wrap	ẸyọMẹrin	4 pcs	Àpò ìgbọ́mọ	1 Baby Start Carrier
Odó àti ọmọ ọdọ	Mortar and pestle	Odidi Kan	1 set	Ẹ̀rọ ìgúnyán	Pounding Machine
Ọlọ àti ọmọ ọlọ	grinding stones	Odidi Kan	1 set	Ẹ̀rọ Ilta	Blender
Ìkòkò ìdána	Cooking Pots & Pans	Mẹrin	4 pcs	Kò kan dandan	No longer necessary

Originally posted 2015-03-10 10:30:47. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

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Lati ọjọ́ ti aláyé ti dá ayé ni Yorùbá ti ni ìgbàgbọ́ ninu ki a gba àdúrà nitori pe ohun gbogbo fẹ́ àdúrà “Ohun ti o dára fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé dára si, eyi ti kò dára na fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé yanjú”. Bi àwọn “Ìgbàgbọ́ tàbi ilé-àdúrà aláṣọ funfun” ti ńlo “Àbẹ́là” gba àdúrà a ni Yorùbá ma ńlo àwọn ohun ọ̀gbin bi: Orógbó, Obì, Atare àti Oyin nibi ètò ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ, ìṣílé, àjọ̀dún àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ. Ẹ jẹ ki a ṣe akiyesi bi Yorùbá ti ńlo wọn fún àdúrà:

Orógbó: Bitter-kola

Orógbó: Bitter-kola. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọpọlọpọ ìgbà ni a ki mọ ẹni ti o gbin igi orógbó nitori igi rẹ lè pé igba ọdún, nitori eyi, Yorùbá ma ńlo lati gbàdúrà nibi ṣiṣe fún ẹmi gigun pe “wa gbó wa tọ́”.

Obì: Kola-nut

Obì: Kola-nut. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Obì wulo fún ọrọ ajé. Yorùbá ni “ọdọdún la nri orógbó, ọdọdún la nri obì lori atẹ” nitori eyi wọn a lo fún àdúrà pe “obì a bi iku, àti pé ẹni na a ṣe àmọ́dún”.

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọmọ/èso pọ ninu atare, nitori eyi wọn a fi gba àdúrà, pataki fún ẹni ti o nṣe ìgbéyàwó pe “ilé wọn á kún fún ọmọ” tàbi nibi ìsọmọ lórúkọ pe “bi wọn ṣe bi ọmọ na, ilé tirẹ̀ na á kún fún ọmọ”.

Oyin: Honey

Oyin – Honey. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Dídùn là ḿbá láfárá oyin”, nitori eyi wọn a lo oyin lati gba àdúrà nibi ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ àti ṣiṣe yoku pe ayé ẹni ti o nṣe nkan á dùn bi oyin.

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

Since creation, Yoruba people had always believed in praying because all things require prayer “What is good require prayer for sustenance, what is bad requires prayer for solution”. As the “Christians or the white garment Churches” use “Candles” for praying, so do Yoruba people use agricultural produce such as: Bitter-kola, Kola-nut, Alligator pepper and Honey to pray during traditional marriage, naming ceremony, house warming, anniversaries etc. Let us note some ways Yoruba people use these items for prayer:

Most often the planter of bitter-kola tree is unknown because the tree can live for two hundred years, hence Yoruba used this to pray during ceremony for long live “the celebrant will long and old”.

Kola-nut is useful as cash crop. Yoruba adage said “Bitter-kola is found yearly, kola-nut is found annually on market display”, as a result of this adage it is believed and reflected in the prayer that said “kola-nut will push away death and the person will live to see another year”.

Alligator pepper often carry many seeds, hence it used during prayer, particularly during traditional marriage that “the couple’s home will be full of children” or during naming ceremony that “as the baby was born so also his/her house will be full children”.

Yoruba Proverb as translated by Oyekan Owomoyela “One finds only sweetness in a honey comb”. This can be applied to the prayer that “The celebrant’s affairs will always be characterized by pleasantness”.

Originally posted 2013-12-13 21:05:33. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

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Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀ pàtàki fún igbéyàwó. Ni ayé àtijọ́, ìnáwó igbéyàwó kò tó bi ó ti dà ni ayé òde òni. Titi di bi ogoji ọdún sẹhin, ilé Bàbá Iyàwó tàbi ọgbà ẹbi ni wọn ti nṣe àpèjọ igbéyàwó. Ẹbi ọ̀tún àti ti òsi yio joko fún ètò igbéyàwó lati gba ẹbi ọkọ ni àlejò fún àdúrà gbi gbà fún àwọn ọmọ ti ó nṣe igbéyàwó àti lati gbà wọn ni ìyànjú bi ó ṣe yẹ ki wọn gbé pọ̀ ni irọ̀rùn. Ẹbi ọkọ yio kó ẹrù ti ẹbi iyàwó ma ngbà fún wọn, lẹhin eyi, ẹbi iyàwó yio pèsè oúnjẹ fún onilé àti àlejò. Onilù àdúgbò lè lùlù ki wọn jó, ṣùgbọ́n kò kan dandan ki wọn lu ilu tàbi ki wọn jó.

Nigbati ìnáwó rẹpẹtẹ fún igbeyawo bẹ̀rẹ̀, àwọn ẹlòmíràn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jẹ igbèsè lati ṣe igbéyàwó pàtàki igbéyàwó ti Olóyìnbó ti a mọ si igbéyàwó-olórùka. Nitori àṣejù yi, olè bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jà ni ibi igbéyàwó, eyi jẹ́ ki wọn gbé àpèjẹ igbéyàwó àti àwọn ayẹyẹ yoku kúrò ni ilé. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si gbé àpèjẹ lọ si ọgbà ilé-iwé, ilé ìjọ́sìn tàbi ọgbà ilú àti ilé-ayẹyẹ.

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Ilú Òyìnbó – Nigerian Wedding in London. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Igbéyàwó òkèrè ni Òkè-Òkun – Nigerian Wedding in Florida U.S.A. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá fẹ́ràn ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe púpọ̀, ṣùgbọ́n àṣà tó gbòde ni ayé òde òni, ni igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ bi ọjọ́ ìbí ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè. Gẹgẹ bi àṣà Yorùbá, ibi ti ẹbi iyàwó bá ngbé ni ẹbi ọkọ yio lọ lati ṣe igbéyàwó. Ẹni ti kò ni ẹbi àti ará tàbi gbé ilú miran pàtàki Òkè-Òkun/Ilú Òyìnbó, yio lọ ṣe igbéyàwó ọmọ ni òkèrè. Wọn yio pe ẹbi àti ọ̀rẹ́ ti ó bá ni owó lati bá wọn lọ si irú igbéyàwó bẹ́ ẹ̀. Ẹbi ti kò bá ni owó, kò ni lè lọ nitori kò ni ri iwé irinna gbà. A ri irú igbéyàwó yi, ti ẹbi ọkọ tàbi ti iyàwó kò lè lọ. Eleyi wọ́pọ laarin àwọn Òṣèlú, Ọ̀gá Òṣìṣẹ́ Ìjọba àti àwọn ti ó ri owó ilú kó jẹ.

Igbéyàwó àti ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni òkèrè, jẹ́ ikan ninú àṣà ti ó mba owó ilú jẹ́. Lati kúrò ni ilú ẹni lọ ṣe iyàwó tàbi ayẹyẹ ni ilú miran, wọn ni lati ṣẹ́ Naira si owó ilu ibi ti wọn ti fẹ́ lọ ṣe ayẹyẹ, lẹhin ìnáwó iwé irinna àti ọkọ̀ òfúrufú. Ilú miran ni ó njẹ èrè ìnáwó bẹ́ ẹ̀, nitori bi wọn bá ṣe e ni ilé, èrò púpọ̀ ni yio jẹ èrè, pàtàki Alásè àti Onilù. A lérò wi pé ni àsìkò ọ̀wọ́n owó pàtàki owó òkèrè ni ilú lati ṣe nkan gidi, ifẹ́ iná àpà fún ayẹyẹ á din kù.

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Originally posted 2016-04-26 18:55:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

ÌGBÉYÀWÓ ÌBÍLẸ̀ – TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

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Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìgbéyàwó ìbíle ní Ilẹ̀ Yorùbá jẹ́ àsìkò ti ẹbí ọkọ àti ì̀yàwó ma nparapọ. Ìyàwó ṣíṣe ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá kò pin sí ãrin ọkọ àti ìyàwó nikan, ohun ti ẹbí nparapọ ṣe pẹ̀lú ìdùnnú nípàtàkì lati gbà wọ́n níyànjú àti lati gba àdúrà fún wọn.

A lè ṣe gbogbo ètò ìgb́eyàwó ìbílẹ̀ ni ọjọ́ kan tàbí ọjọ́ púpọ̀ fún àpẹrẹ: mọ̀mí-nmọ̀ẹ lọjọkan ati idana lọ́jọ́ keji tàbi ọjọ miran. Ní ayé àtijọ́, nígbàtí Yorùbá ma nṣe ayẹyẹ níwọ̀ntúnwọ̀sín, ilé ẹbí tàbi ọgbà bàbá àti ìyá iyawo ni wọn ti nṣe ayẹyẹ ìgbéyàwó, ṣùgbọ́n láyé òde òní, àyè ọ̀tọ̀ bi ilé ìlú, pápá ìṣeré, ilé àlejò àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ ni wọ́n nlo. Àṣà gbígba àyè ọ̀tọ tógbòde bẹ̀rẹ̀ nítorí àwọn adigun jalè àti àwọn ènìyàn burúkú míràn ti o ma ndarapọ pẹ̀lú àwọn àlejò tí a pè sí ibi ìyàwó lati ṣe iṣẹ́ ibi. Owó púpọ ni ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ma nfi gba à̀yè ibi ṣíṣe ìyàwó.

Bí òbí ba ti lọ́lá tó ni wọn ma náwó tó, nitori ìdùnnú ni fún òbí pé a tọ́mọ, wọ́n gbẹ̀kọ́, wọn fẹ di òmìnira lati bẹ̀rẹ̀ ẹbí tíwọn, ṣùgbọ́n àṣejù ati àṣehàn ti wa wọ́pọ̀ jù. Nítorí ìnáwó ìgbéyàwó, ilé ayẹyẹ pọ̀ju ilé ìkàwé lọ láyé òde òní. Kí ṣe bi a ti náwó tó níbi ìgbéyàwó lo nmu àṣeyorí ba ọkọ àti ìyàwo, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ntuka láìpẹ́ lẹ́hin ariwo rẹpẹtẹ yi. Yorùbá ni “A ki fọlá jẹ iyọ̀”, nínú ìṣẹ layika ni ilẹ̀ Aláwọdúdú, ó yẹ ki a ṣe ayẹyẹ ìgbéyàwó níwọ̀ntúnwọ̀nsìn. Ẹ fojú sọ́nà fún ètò ìgbéyàwó ibilè.

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Originally posted 2013-04-12 21:00:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

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Òwe yi fi ara han ni itan iyàwó Aṣojú-ọba, ti a ò pè ni Tinumi pẹ̀lú ọmọ rẹ̀ kan ṣoṣo, ọkùnrin ti a mọ̀ si Mofẹ́. Mofẹ́ dàgbà lati fẹ obinrin. Ó̀ yan obinrin ti à ńpè ni Àyànfẹ́ ni iyàwó àfẹ́sọ́nà. Nigbati ó mú Àyànfẹ́ lọ han àwọn òbi rẹ, Bàbá Mofẹ́ gba Àyànfẹ́ tọwọ́-tẹsẹ̀, ṣùgbọ́n iyá Mofẹ́ fi àáké kọ́ri pé ọmọ ohun kò ni fẹ́ Àyànfẹ́. Wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ idi ti kò ṣe fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ ẹni ti ó múwá, Tinumi kò ri àlàyé ṣe ju pé ohun kò fẹ́ ki ọmọ ohun fẹ́ “Àtọ̀hún rin wa – ọmọ ti kò ni iran”. Ọmọ rẹ naa fi àáké kòri pé ẹni ti ohun ma fẹ ni Àyànfẹ́.

Tinumi sọ àfẹ́sọ́nà ọmọ rẹ di orogún, gbogbo ibi ti ó bá ti pàdé Àyànfẹ ni ibi àjoṣe ẹbi ni ó ti ḿbajà pé ki ó dẹ̀hin lẹhin ọmọ ohun. Àyànfẹ́ lé ọmọ rẹ titi ṣùgbọ́n ó kọ̀ lati dẹhin.

Lẹhin ọdún marun ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ti ńṣe ọ̀rẹ́, iwé jade pé wọn gbé Bàbá Mofẹ́. Gẹgẹ bi Aṣojú-Ọba lọ si Òkè-òkun. Bàbá ṣètò bi ọmọ àti iyàwó ti ma tẹ̀lé ohun. Ọmọ kọ̀ pé ohun kò lọ pẹ̀lú òbi ohun ti àfẹ́sọ́nà ohun kò bá ni tẹ̀lé àwọn lọ. Bàbá gbà pé ọmọ ohun ti tó fẹ́ iyàwó, wọn ṣe ètò igbéyàwó fún Mofẹ́ àti àfẹ́sọ́nà̀ rẹ. Lẹhin ti Mofẹ́ àti Àyànfẹ́ ṣe iyàwó tán, wọn tẹ̀lé Bàbá àti Ìyá wọn lọ si Òkè-okun lati má jọ gbé.

Àrùn ara Tinumi, aya Aṣojú-ọba bẹ̀rẹ̀ si han nitori ó sọ iyàwó ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Nigbati ọkọ rẹ ri àlébù yi, ó pinu lati wa orogún fun Tinumi nitori ai ni orogún ni ó ṣe sọ aya ọmọ rẹ di orogún. Gẹgẹ bi a ti mọ, igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ kò ni ki ọkùnrin ma fẹ iyàwó keji. Nigbati Bàbá Mofẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó kékeré, ọmọ àti iyàwó kó kúrò lọ si ilé tiwọn, inú rẹ bàjẹ́ nigbati o kũ pẹ̀lú orogún rẹ. Ó jẹ èrè iwà burúkú àti ìgbéraga.

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Originally posted 2014-06-20 13:30:24. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

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Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìyàtọ̀ diẹ̀ ló wà lãrin awọn ẹru igbéyàwó ti a kọ́ si ojú iwé yi lati idile si idile. Fún àpẹre: idile miran fẹ odidi iti ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀, nigbati àwọn idile miran lè bẽre fún àpò gãri. Kò si àyè àti sin abo ewúrẹ́ fún awọn ti o ńgbé ìlú nla tàbi ìlú òyinbó́, nitorina a lè fi owó dipò fún ìyá àgbà ni abúlé ki wọn ra abo ewúrẹ́ lati sin fún ìyàwó. Awọn ẹlẹ́sìn ìgbàlódé lè sọ wipé awọn ò fẹ́ ki wọn fi ataare àti obì ṣe àdúrà fún ọkọ ati ìyàwó. A tún ṣe akiyesi wipé wọn ki tú àpóti ìyàwó mọ, nitori ni ayé àtijọ́, wọn yio ṣi àpóti ki gbogbo ẹbí ri awọn ohun ẹ̀ṣọ́ ti ọkọ ìyàwó ra fún ìyàwó rẹ, eyi bo àṣírí ìnáwó lori awọn ohun ẹṣọ. Ẹbi tún lè wo ṣe fún ọkọ ìyàwó lati gba idaji oye iṣu tàbi ẹrù lati bo ni àṣiri.

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There is just a little difference between the bridal list items and the family list from one family to the other. For example: some family would request for bunch of plantain, while the other would request for a bag of coarse cassava flour instead. There is no place to rear a she-goat for those living in the big city or living abroad, hence money can be given to bride’s grandmother or aunt to rear one in the village on her behalf. Also, those practising modern religion may not want alligator pepper and Cola-nut to pray for the bride and groom. It is also observed that, the practice of opening the bridal box to show off beautiful items bought by the groom in the presence of the family has been discontinued. The family can also be considerate to the groom by receiving half of the items on the list or less.

: Ìtí ọgẹdẹ – Bunches of Plantain. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Iṣu – Yam. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ẹrù ìyàwó dídì – Wrapped bridal gifts. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Oriṣiriṣi Èso – Various Fruits. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY
YORÙBÁ	ENGLISH	IYE	Quantity	D́IPÒ	SUBSTITUTE
Iṣu	Yam	Mejilogoji	42	Ọ̀dùnkún	2 Bags of Potatoes
Obì	Kolanut	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Orógbó	Bitter Kola	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Atare	Alligator Pepper	Mọkanlelogun	21
Abọ́ Aadun	Fried Corn Paste	Abọ́ Kan	1 dish
Iyọ̀	Salt	Àpò Kan	I Bag
Epo Pupa	Palm Oil	Garawa Kan	1 Tin	Garawa Ò̀̀̀̀̀róró	1 Tin of Vegetable Oil
Oriṣiriṣi Èso	Assorted Fruits	Àpẹrẹ Meji	2 Baskets	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Oyin	Honey	Ìgo Meji	2 Bottles
Ìrèké	Sugar Cane	Igi Ìrèké Meji	2 sticks of Sugar Cane
Iyọ̀ Ìrèké oni horo	Sugar Cubes	Pálí Mẹwa Meji	2 Packets of 10
Abo Ewúrẹ́	She Goat	Ẹyọ Kan	1	Owó	Money
Ẹja gbigbẹ	Dry Fish	Mẹfa	6		Could be more
Ìrẹsi	Rice	Àpò Kan	1 Bag
Ìgò Ẹlẹsọ fún ọti	Decanter	Ìgò Meji
Ẹmu	Palm Wine	Agbè Meji		Ẹmu-òyinbó	Champagne
Oriṣiriṣi ọti oyinbo	Assorted Drinks – Alchoholic & Non Alchoholic	Páli Merin

Originally posted 2013-10-29 20:54:27. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

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Ni igbà àtijọ́, oníyàwó kan kò wọ́pọ̀ nitori iṣẹ́ Àgbẹ̀. Àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣe kókó nitori bibi ọmọ púpọ̀ pàtàki ọmọ ọkùnrin fún irànlọ́wọ́ iṣẹ́-oko. Fi fẹ̀ iyàwó púpọ̀ kò pin si ilẹ̀ Yorùbá tàbi ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀dúdú nikan, ó wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀funfun ni ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọdún sẹhin ṣùgbọ́n nitori òwò ẹrú àti ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ àṣà fi fẹ iyàwó kan. Lẹhin òwò ẹrú, li lo ẹ̀rọ igbàlódé fún iṣẹ́ oko jẹ ki Aláwọ̀funfun lè dúró pẹ̀lú àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó kan.

Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọ̀dọ́ ayé òde òni ti kọ àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ silẹ̀ nitori ẹ̀sìn, ìmọ̀ àti si sá fún rògbòdiyàn ti ó lọ pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀. Iṣẹ́ Alákọ̀wé kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ nitori iwé-ẹ̀ri àti ipò ti èniyàn dé ni iṣẹ́ Akọ̀wé tàbi iṣẹ́ Ìjọba kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ bi oko. Owó ti ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ Oniṣẹ́-oṣ̀u ngba kò tó lati bọ́ iyàwó kan ki owó oṣù míràn tó wọlé, bẹni kò tó gba ilé nla ti ó lè gba iyàwó púpọ̀ pàtàki ni ilú nla bi Èkó. Àṣà iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣi pọ̀, ni àwọn ilú kékeré tàbi Abúlé laarin àwọn àgbẹ̀ àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Yorùbá ni “Bàbá, bàbá gbogbo ayé”, bi iyàwó kò bá ni iṣẹ́ lati tọ́jú ọmọ wọn, ìṣẹ́ dé, nitori eyi, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ obinrin Yorùbá ma ntẹpá mọ́ṣẹ́ lati lè tọ́jú ọmọ wọn lai dúró de ọkọ. Ìyà àti ìṣẹ́ ni fún ọmọ púpọ̀ àti àwon iyàwó ọkùnrin ti kò ni iṣẹ́ tàbi eyi ti ó ni iṣẹ́ ti kò wúlò.

Ewu ti ó wà ni ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ju ire ibẹ̀ lọ. Yorùbá ni “Oníyàwó kan kò mọ ẹjọ́ oníyàwó púpọ̀ da a”. Lára ewu wọnyi ni, ki i si ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ nitori ijà àti ariwo ti owú ji jẹ laarin àwọn iyàwó ma nfà pàtàki ni agbo ilé nlá tàbi ilé Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti Olóyè. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ma nda ahoro lẹhin ikú Olóri ilé nitori kò si ẹni ti ó ni ìfẹ́ tọ si Bàbá oníyàwó púpọ̀.

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Originally posted 2015-07-24 22:19:43. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

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Gẹ́gẹ́ bi a ti kọ tẹ́lẹ̀, ẹrù àti owó àna yàtọ̀ lati idilé kan si ekeji, ṣùgbọ́n àwọn ohun àdúrà bára mu ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá pàtàki Oyin, Obi, Ataare, Orógbó. Fún ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ẹbi Yorùbá, ogoji ni oye àwọn ẹrù bi Obi, Orógbó, Ataare, Ẹja-gbígbẹ àti Iṣu ti idile ma ngba. Olóri ẹbi lè din oye ẹrù ku lati din ìnáwó ọkọ iyàwó kù. Lẹhin igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀, wọn yio pin ẹrù yi (yàtọ̀ si ẹrù fún Iyàwó), si ọ̀nà meji lati kó apá kan àti apá keji fún Idilé Bàbá àti Ìyá Iyàwó. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àpẹrẹ ẹrú ati owó àna fún Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀ ni Ìbòròpa-Àkókó, Ipinlẹ̀ Ondó ni ojú iwé yi.

Yorùbá /English Translation
Ẹrù Àdúrà Ìwọ̀n Traditional Prayer items/Quantity
Ataare Ogún Alligator Pepper 20
Obi Àbàtà Ogún Traditional Kolanut 20
Obi Gbànja Ogún Kolanut 20
Orógbó Ogún Bitter Kola 20
Ẹja gbigbẹ Abori Ẹyọ Meji Dry Fish 02
Oyin Ìgò Meji Honey 02 Bottles
Iyọ̀ ìrèké Páálí Meji Sugar 02 pkts

Apẹ̀rẹ̀ ti a pin àwọn èso oriṣiriṣi wọnyi si: Baskets of assorted fruits
Àgbọn Mẹjọ Cocoanut 08
Ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀-wẹ́wẹ́ Ẹ̀ya Meji Banana 02 Bunches
Òrombó/Ọsàn Méjìlá Oranges 12
Ọ̀pẹ̀-òyinbó Méjì Pineapple 02

Àwọn Oún ji jẹ: Food Items
Epo-pupa Garawa kan Palm Oil 01 Keg (25kg)
Iyọ̀ Àpò Kan Salt 01 Bag
Iṣu Ogóji Yam 40 Tubers
Abo Ewúrẹ́ kékeré Ẹyọ kan She Goat 01
Àkàrà òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Biscuits/Cookies 02 Cartons

Ohun Mimu/Ọti Òyinbó; Assorted Local and foreign Drinks
Ọti Àdúrà Ìgò Meji Local Gin 02 Bottles
Ọti Ṣẹ̀kẹ̀tẹ́ Garawa Meji Local Malt 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ẹmu-ọ̀pẹ Garawa Meji Palm Wine 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Gulder 02 Cartons
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí Meji Stout 02 Cartons
Omi aládùn Páálí Meji Mineral/Soft Drink 02 Cartons/Crate

Ẹrù Iyàwó Items for the Bride
Àpóti Aṣọ kan 01 Suitcase of Assorted Clothes
Bibeli kan 01 Bible
Agboòrùn kan 01 Umbrella

Àpò Owó Money: Envelopes for
Owó Ìyá-gbọ́ Bride’s Mother’s consent
Owó Bàbá gbọ́ Bride’s Father’s consent
Owó Ọmọ ilé Children
Owó Ìyàwó ilé Wives
Owó Ẹpọnsi Bride’s Elder Sisters

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Originally posted 2015-08-28 19:37:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

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OWO NAIRA

Bi ọkọ ìyàwó bà ti lówó tó ni ó ti lè fi owó si inú àpò ìwé fún owó orí àti àwọn owó ẹbi yókù. Ni ayé òde òní, owó fún àpò ìwé méjìlá wọnyi lè bẹ̀rẹ̀ lati Aadọta Naira, ẹbí dẹ̀ lè din àpò ìwé kù lai ṣi àpò ìwé tàbi ka owó inú rẹ̀.

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó rà”. Ìyàwó ìbílẹ̀ ki ṣe iṣẹ́ ọkọ-ìyàwó nikan, bi ẹbí ìyàwó bá wo àwọn ènìà pàtàkì lẹhin ọkọ, inú wọn a dùn ju owó lọ, nitori wọn a mọ̀ wípé ilé tó dára ni ọmọ wọn nlọ. Ọpọlọpọ ẹbí ki gba owó orí mọ, wọn a fún ẹbí ọkọ padà ni àpò ìwé owó orí pẹ̀lú ìkìlọ̀ wípé “ọmọ wọn ki ṣe tita, ṣùgbọ́n ki ọkọ àti ẹbi rẹ tọju ọmọ wọn”. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àwọn ohun ti àpò ìwé owó wọnyi wà fún ni ojú ìwé yi.

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The amount in the envelopes for bride price and other family envelopes are often depend on the purse of the groom. In this modern time, the amount in each of the twelve (12) envelopes can start from Fifty (50) Naira. The bride’s family can also use discretion to reduce the number of envelopes or not count the amount in the envelopes to assist the Groom.

According to Yoruba proverb, “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”. Traditional marriage ceremony is not the responsibility of the groom alone, if the bride’s family observe that the groom has good family support, he will be more honoured than preference for money. Many families are no longer collecting “Bride Price”, hence the symbolic envelopes containing the “Bride Price” is returned with a caution that “their daughter is not for sale, but the groom and his family should take good care”. Look through the list of envelopes and the purpose for which the envelope is used.

ÀPÒ OWÓ ÌYÀWÓ – BRIDAL MONEY ENVELOPES
Yorùbá	English	Iye Owó	Amount Naira	Iye ti agbára ká	Flexible Amount
Owó Ìkanlẹ̀kùn	Knocking on the door money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Irinna	Transportation money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Iwọlé	Entry money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyá gbọ́	Money for mother-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Bàbá gbọ́	Money for father-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyàwó Ilé	Money for the Bridal family wives	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọkunrin Ilé	Money for Bridal family male youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọbririn Ilé	Money for Bridal family female youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ijoko Àgbà	Money for the Bridal family elders’ sitting	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣígbá	Money for opening the Bridal Bride Price Dish	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣíjú Ìyàwó	Money for opening the Bridal Bridal veil cover	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Orí	Bride Price	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	Ẹbí ìyàwó a ma dapadà	It is often returned

Originally posted 2015-03-13 10:15:11. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Òrìṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé inú – Àṣà Ìkó-binrin-jọ: “The prayer of a woman to the god of heaven to have a co-wife/rival is not sincere” – The Culture of Polygamy

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Ọkùnrin kan pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀ wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Àwọn obinrin ti ó bá́ fẹ́ ọkọ kan naa ni à ńpè ni “Orogún”. Ìwà oriṣiriṣi ni ó ma ńhàn ni ilé olórogún, àrù̀n iyàwó ti ó ńjalè, purọ́, ṣe àgbèrè, aláisàn, ti ó ńṣe òfófó, àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ, lè má hàn bi ó bá jẹ́ obinrin kan pẹ̀lú ọkọ rẹ ni ó ńgbe gẹ́gẹ́ bi ti ayé ode oni. Bi iyàwó bá ti pé meji, mẹta, bi àrù́n yi bá hàn si iyàwó keji, èébú dé, pataki ni àsikò ijà.

Ni ẹ̀sin ibilẹ̀, oye iyàwó ti ọkùnrin lè fẹ́, ko niye, pàtàki Ọba, Olóyè, Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti akikanjú ni àwùjọ. Bi àwọn ti ó ni ipò giga tabi òkìkí ni àwùjọ kò fẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀, ará ilú á fi obinrin ta wọn lọ́rẹ. Ẹ̀sin igbàlódé pàtàki, ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ ti din àṣà ikó-binrin-jọ kù. Òfin ẹlẹ́sin igbàgbọ́ ni “ọkọ kan àti aya kan”. Bi o ti jẹ́ pé ẹ̀sin Musulumi gbà ki “Ọkùnrin lè fẹ́ iyàwó titi dé mẹrin”, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin Musulumi igbàlódé ńsá fún kikó iyàwó jọ.

Fẹlá Kúti fẹ́ iyàwó mẹta-din-lọgbọn ni ọjọ kan – Fela Kuti married 27 wives in one day

Yorùbá ni “Òriṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé nú”. Inú obinrin ti wọn fẹ́ iyàwó tẹ̀lé kò lè dùn dé inú, nitori eyi, kò lè fi gbogbo ọkàn rẹ tán ọkọ rẹ mọ, owú jijẹ á bẹ̀rẹ̀. Iyàwó kékeré lè dé ilé ri àbùkù ọkọ ti iyálé mú mọ́ra. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oló-rogún kiki ijà àti ariwo laarin àwọn iyàwó àti àwọn ọmọ naa. Diẹ̀ ninú ọkùnrin ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ló ni igbádùn. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin ti ó kó obinrin jọ ni ó ńsọ ẹ̀mi wọn nù ni ọjọ́ ai pẹ́ nitori ai ni ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ àti àisàn ti bi bá obinrin púpọ̀ lò pọ̀ lè fà. Nitori eyi, ọkùnrin ti ó bá fẹ́ kó iyàwó jọ nilati múra gidigidi fun ohun ti ó ma gbẹ̀hìn àṣà yi.

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Originally posted 2014-06-10 18:00:13. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

“Ẹrù fún Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀” – “Traditional Bridal List”

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

“Ayẹyẹ ṣi ṣe ni Òkèrè – Àṣà ti ó mba Owó Ilú jẹ́”: “Destination Events – The Culture that is destroying the Local Currency”

ÌGBÉYÀWÓ ÌBÍLẸ̀ – TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE

“Obinrin ti kò ni orogún, kò ti mọ àrùn ara rẹ̀”: A woman who has no co-wife cannot yet identify her disease

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

Òrìṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé inú – Àṣà Ìkó-binrin-jọ: “The prayer of a woman to the god of heaven to have a co-wife/rival is not sincere” – The Culture of Polygamy

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