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ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

Gifts at a modern Yoruba Traditional wedding — courtesy of @theYorubablog

Ìyàtọ̀ diẹ̀ ló wà lãrin awọn ẹru igbéyàwó ti a kọ́ si ojú iwé yi lati idile si idile. Fún àpẹre: idile miran fẹ odidi iti ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀, nigbati àwọn idile miran lè bẽre fún àpò gãri. Kò si àyè àti sin abo ewúrẹ́ fún awọn ti o ńgbé ìlú nla tàbi ìlú òyinbó́, nitorina a lè fi owó dipò fún ìyá àgbà ni abúlé ki wọn ra abo ewúrẹ́ lati sin fún ìyàwó. Awọn ẹlẹ́sìn ìgbàlódé lè sọ wipé awọn ò fẹ́ ki wọn fi ataare àti obì ṣe àdúrà fún ọkọ ati ìyàwó. A tún ṣe akiyesi wipé wọn ki tú àpóti ìyàwó mọ, nitori ni ayé àtijọ́, wọn yio ṣi àpóti ki gbogbo ẹbí ri awọn ohun ẹ̀ṣọ́ ti ọkọ ìyàwó ra fún ìyàwó rẹ, eyi bo àṣírí ìnáwó lori awọn ohun ẹṣọ. Ẹbi tún lè wo ṣe fún ọkọ ìyàwó lati gba idaji oye iṣu tàbi ẹrù lati bo ni àṣiri.

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

There is just a little difference between the bridal list items and the family list from one family to the other. For example: some family would request for bunch of plantain, while the other would request for a bag of coarse cassava flour instead. There is no place to rear a she-goat for those living in the big city or living abroad, hence money can be given to bride’s grandmother or aunt to rear one in the village on her behalf. Also, those practising modern religion may not want alligator pepper and Cola-nut to pray for the bride and groom. It is also observed that, the practice of opening the bridal box to show off beautiful items bought by the groom in the presence of the family has been discontinued. The family can also be considerate to the groom by receiving half of the items on the list or less.

: Ìtí ọgẹdẹ – Bunches of Plantain. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Iṣu – Yam. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ẹrù ìyàwó dídì – Wrapped bridal gifts. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Oriṣiriṣi Èso – Various Fruits. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY
YORÙBÁ	ENGLISH	IYE	Quantity	D́IPÒ	SUBSTITUTE
Iṣu	Yam	Mejilogoji	42	Ọ̀dùnkún	2 Bags of Potatoes
Obì	Kolanut	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Orógbó	Bitter Kola	Mejilogoji	42	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Atare	Alligator Pepper	Mọkanlelogun	21
Abọ́ Aadun	Fried Corn Paste	Abọ́ Kan	1 dish
Iyọ̀	Salt	Àpò Kan	I Bag
Epo Pupa	Palm Oil	Garawa Kan	1 Tin	Garawa Ò̀̀̀̀̀róró	1 Tin of Vegetable Oil
Oriṣiriṣi Èso	Assorted Fruits	Àpẹrẹ Meji	2 Baskets	Èso àrọ́wọ́ tó	Available Fruits
Oyin	Honey	Ìgo Meji	2 Bottles
Ìrèké	Sugar Cane	Igi Ìrèké Meji	2 sticks of Sugar Cane
Iyọ̀ Ìrèké oni horo	Sugar Cubes	Pálí Mẹwa Meji	2 Packets of 10
Abo Ewúrẹ́	She Goat	Ẹyọ Kan	1	Owó	Money
Ẹja gbigbẹ	Dry Fish	Mẹfa	6		Could be more
Ìrẹsi	Rice	Àpò Kan	1 Bag
Ìgò Ẹlẹsọ fún ọti	Decanter	Ìgò Meji
Ẹmu	Palm Wine	Agbè Meji		Ẹmu-òyinbó	Champagne
Oriṣiriṣi ọti oyinbo	Assorted Drinks – Alchoholic & Non Alchoholic	Páli Merin

Originally posted 2013-10-29 20:54:27. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

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Ni igbà àtijọ́, oníyàwó kan kò wọ́pọ̀ nitori iṣẹ́ Àgbẹ̀. Àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣe kókó nitori bibi ọmọ púpọ̀ pàtàki ọmọ ọkùnrin fún irànlọ́wọ́ iṣẹ́-oko. Fi fẹ̀ iyàwó púpọ̀ kò pin si ilẹ̀ Yorùbá tàbi ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀dúdú nikan, ó wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Aláwọ̀funfun ni ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọdún sẹhin ṣùgbọ́n nitori òwò ẹrú àti ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ àṣà fi fẹ iyàwó kan. Lẹhin òwò ẹrú, li lo ẹ̀rọ igbàlódé fún iṣẹ́ oko jẹ ki Aláwọ̀funfun lè dúró pẹ̀lú àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó kan.

Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọ̀dọ́ ayé òde òni ti kọ àṣà fi fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ silẹ̀ nitori ẹ̀sìn, ìmọ̀ àti si sá fún rògbòdiyàn ti ó lọ pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀. Iṣẹ́ Alákọ̀wé kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ nitori iwé-ẹ̀ri àti ipò ti èniyàn dé ni iṣẹ́ Akọ̀wé tàbi iṣẹ́ Ìjọba kò ṣe fi jogún fún ọmọ bi oko. Owó ti ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ Oniṣẹ́-oṣ̀u ngba kò tó lati bọ́ iyàwó kan ki owó oṣù míràn tó wọlé, bẹni kò tó gba ilé nla ti ó lè gba iyàwó púpọ̀ pàtàki ni ilú nla bi Èkó. Àṣà iyàwó púpọ̀ ṣi pọ̀, ni àwọn ilú kékeré tàbi Abúlé laarin àwọn àgbẹ̀ àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Yorùbá ni “Bàbá, bàbá gbogbo ayé”, bi iyàwó kò bá ni iṣẹ́ lati tọ́jú ọmọ wọn, ìṣẹ́ dé, nitori eyi, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ obinrin Yorùbá ma ntẹpá mọ́ṣẹ́ lati lè tọ́jú ọmọ wọn lai dúró de ọkọ. Ìyà àti ìṣẹ́ ni fún ọmọ púpọ̀ àti àwon iyàwó ọkùnrin ti kò ni iṣẹ́ tàbi eyi ti ó ni iṣẹ́ ti kò wúlò.

Ewu ti ó wà ni ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ju ire ibẹ̀ lọ. Yorùbá ni “Oníyàwó kan kò mọ ẹjọ́ oníyàwó púpọ̀ da a”. Lára ewu wọnyi ni, ki i si ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ nitori ijà àti ariwo ti owú ji jẹ laarin àwọn iyàwó ma nfà pàtàki ni agbo ilé nlá tàbi ilé Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti Olóyè. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oníyàwó púpọ̀ ma nda ahoro lẹhin ikú Olóri ilé nitori kò si ẹni ti ó ni ìfẹ́ tọ si Bàbá oníyàwó púpọ̀.

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Originally posted 2015-07-24 22:19:43. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

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Gẹ́gẹ́ bi a ti kọ tẹ́lẹ̀, ẹrù àti owó àna yàtọ̀ lati idilé kan si ekeji, ṣùgbọ́n àwọn ohun àdúrà bára mu ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá pàtàki Oyin, Obi, Ataare, Orógbó. Fún ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ẹbi Yorùbá, ogoji ni oye àwọn ẹrù bi Obi, Orógbó, Ataare, Ẹja-gbígbẹ àti Iṣu ti idile ma ngba. Olóri ẹbi lè din oye ẹrù ku lati din ìnáwó ọkọ iyàwó kù. Lẹhin igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀, wọn yio pin ẹrù yi (yàtọ̀ si ẹrù fún Iyàwó), si ọ̀nà meji lati kó apá kan àti apá keji fún Idilé Bàbá àti Ìyá Iyàwó. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àpẹrẹ ẹrú ati owó àna fún Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀ ni Ìbòròpa-Àkókó, Ipinlẹ̀ Ondó ni ojú iwé yi.

Yorùbá /English Translation
Ẹrù Àdúrà Ìwọ̀n Traditional Prayer items/Quantity
Ataare Ogún Alligator Pepper 20
Obi Àbàtà Ogún Traditional Kolanut 20
Obi Gbànja Ogún Kolanut 20
Orógbó Ogún Bitter Kola 20
Ẹja gbigbẹ Abori Ẹyọ Meji Dry Fish 02
Oyin Ìgò Meji Honey 02 Bottles
Iyọ̀ ìrèké Páálí Meji Sugar 02 pkts

Apẹ̀rẹ̀ ti a pin àwọn èso oriṣiriṣi wọnyi si: Baskets of assorted fruits
Àgbọn Mẹjọ Cocoanut 08
Ọ̀gẹ̀dẹ̀-wẹ́wẹ́ Ẹ̀ya Meji Banana 02 Bunches
Òrombó/Ọsàn Méjìlá Oranges 12
Ọ̀pẹ̀-òyinbó Méjì Pineapple 02

Àwọn Oún ji jẹ: Food Items
Epo-pupa Garawa kan Palm Oil 01 Keg (25kg)
Iyọ̀ Àpò Kan Salt 01 Bag
Iṣu Ogóji Yam 40 Tubers
Abo Ewúrẹ́ kékeré Ẹyọ kan She Goat 01
Àkàrà òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Biscuits/Cookies 02 Cartons

Ohun Mimu/Ọti Òyinbó; Assorted Local and foreign Drinks
Ọti Àdúrà Ìgò Meji Local Gin 02 Bottles
Ọti Ṣẹ̀kẹ̀tẹ́ Garawa Meji Local Malt 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ẹmu-ọ̀pẹ Garawa Meji Palm Wine 02 Keg (25ltr)
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí nla Meji Gulder 02 Cartons
Ọti Òyinbó Páálí Meji Stout 02 Cartons
Omi aládùn Páálí Meji Mineral/Soft Drink 02 Cartons/Crate

Ẹrù Iyàwó Items for the Bride
Àpóti Aṣọ kan 01 Suitcase of Assorted Clothes
Bibeli kan 01 Bible
Agboòrùn kan 01 Umbrella

Àpò Owó Money: Envelopes for
Owó Ìyá-gbọ́ Bride’s Mother’s consent
Owó Bàbá gbọ́ Bride’s Father’s consent
Owó Ọmọ ilé Children
Owó Ìyàwó ilé Wives
Owó Ẹpọnsi Bride’s Elder Sisters

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Originally posted 2015-08-28 19:37:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

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Lati ọjọ́ ti aláyé ti dá ayé ni Yorùbá ti ni ìgbàgbọ́ ninu ki a gba àdúrà nitori pe ohun gbogbo fẹ́ àdúrà “Ohun ti o dára fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé dára si, eyi ti kò dára na fẹ́ àdúrà ki ó bà lé yanjú”. Bi àwọn “Ìgbàgbọ́ tàbi ilé-àdúrà aláṣọ funfun” ti ńlo “Àbẹ́là” gba àdúrà a ni Yorùbá ma ńlo àwọn ohun ọ̀gbin bi: Orógbó, Obì, Atare àti Oyin nibi ètò ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ, ìṣílé, àjọ̀dún àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ. Ẹ jẹ ki a ṣe akiyesi bi Yorùbá ti ńlo wọn fún àdúrà:

Orógbó: Bitter-kola

Orógbó: Bitter-kola. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọpọlọpọ ìgbà ni a ki mọ ẹni ti o gbin igi orógbó nitori igi rẹ lè pé igba ọdún, nitori eyi, Yorùbá ma ńlo lati gbàdúrà nibi ṣiṣe fún ẹmi gigun pe “wa gbó wa tọ́”.

Obì: Kola-nut

Obì: Kola-nut. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Obì wulo fún ọrọ ajé. Yorùbá ni “ọdọdún la nri orógbó, ọdọdún la nri obì lori atẹ” nitori eyi wọn a lo fún àdúrà pe “obì a bi iku, àti pé ẹni na a ṣe àmọ́dún”.

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper

Atare: Guinea/Maleguetta/Alligator pepper. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ọmọ/èso pọ ninu atare, nitori eyi wọn a fi gba àdúrà, pataki fún ẹni ti o nṣe ìgbéyàwó pe “ilé wọn á kún fún ọmọ” tàbi nibi ìsọmọ lórúkọ pe “bi wọn ṣe bi ọmọ na, ilé tirẹ̀ na á kún fún ọmọ”.

Oyin: Honey

Oyin – Honey. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Dídùn là ḿbá láfárá oyin”, nitori eyi wọn a lo oyin lati gba àdúrà nibi ìgbéyàwó, ìsọmọ lórúkọ àti ṣiṣe yoku pe ayé ẹni ti o nṣe nkan á dùn bi oyin.

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Since creation, Yoruba people had always believed in praying because all things require prayer “What is good require prayer for sustenance, what is bad requires prayer for solution”. As the “Christians or the white garment Churches” use “Candles” for praying, so do Yoruba people use agricultural produce such as: Bitter-kola, Kola-nut, Alligator pepper and Honey to pray during traditional marriage, naming ceremony, house warming, anniversaries etc. Let us note some ways Yoruba people use these items for prayer:

Most often the planter of bitter-kola tree is unknown because the tree can live for two hundred years, hence Yoruba used this to pray during ceremony for long live “the celebrant will long and old”.

Kola-nut is useful as cash crop. Yoruba adage said “Bitter-kola is found yearly, kola-nut is found annually on market display”, as a result of this adage it is believed and reflected in the prayer that said “kola-nut will push away death and the person will live to see another year”.

Alligator pepper often carry many seeds, hence it used during prayer, particularly during traditional marriage that “the couple’s home will be full of children” or during naming ceremony that “as the baby was born so also his/her house will be full children”.

Yoruba Proverb as translated by Oyekan Owomoyela “One finds only sweetness in a honey comb”. This can be applied to the prayer that “The celebrant’s affairs will always be characterized by pleasantness”.

Originally posted 2013-12-13 21:05:33. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

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Ìtàn ti ó wọ́pọ̀ ni, bi iyá-ọkọ ti burú lai ri ìtàn iyá-ọkọ ti ó dára sọ. Eyi dákún àṣà burúkú ti ó gbòde láyé òde òni, nipa àwọn ọmọge ti ó ti tó wọ ilé-ọkọ tàbi obinrin àfẹ́sọ́nà ma a sọ pé àwọn ò fẹ́ ri iyá-ọkọ tàbi ki iyá-ọkọ ti kú ki àwọn tó délé.

Ni ayé àtijọ́, agbègbè kan na a ni ẹbi má ngbé – bàbá-àgbà, iyá-àgbà, bàbá, iyá, ẹ̀gbọ́n, àbúrò, iyàwó àgbà, iyàwó kékeré, ìyàwó-ọmọ, àwọn ọmọ àti ọmọ-mọ. Ṣùgbọ́n ni ayé òde òni, ọ̀pọ̀ kò fẹ́ ṣe iṣẹ́ àgbẹ̀ mọ, ẹbi ti fúnká si ilú nlá àti òkè-òkun nitori iṣẹ́ ajé àti iṣẹ́-ijọba.

Ni ọ̀pọ̀ ọdún sẹhin, iyá kan wà ti a o pe orúkọ rẹ ni Tanimọ̀la ninú ìtàn yi. Ó bi ọmọ ọkùnrin meje lai bi obinrin. Kékeré ni àwọn ọmọ rẹ wà nigbati ọkọ rẹ kú. Tanimọ̀la fi ìṣẹ́ àti ìyà tọ́ àwọn ọmọ rẹ, gbogbo àwọn ọkùnrin na a si yàn wọn yanjú. Nigbati wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si fẹ́ ìyàwó, inú rẹ dùn púpọ̀ pé Ọlọrun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si dá obinrin ti ohun kò bi padà fún ohun. Ó fẹ́ràn àwọn ìyàwó ọmọ rẹ gidigidi ṣùgbọ́n ọ̀pọ̀ ọmọ rẹ kó lọ si ilú miran pẹ̀lú ìyàwó wọn nitori iṣẹ́. Àbi-gbẹhin rẹ nikan ni kò kúrò ni ilé nitori ohun ló bójú tó oko àti ilé ti bàbá wọn fi silẹ. Nigbati ó fẹ ìyàwó wálé, inú iyá dùn pé ohun yio ri ẹni bá gbé. Ìyàwó yi lẹ́wà, o si ni ọ̀yàyà, eyi tún jẹ́ ki iyá-ọkọ rẹ fẹ́ràn si gidigidi.

Yorùbá ni “Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni”. Tanimọ̀la kò mọ̀ pé àjẹ́ ni ìyàwó-ọmọ ti ohun fẹ́ràn, ti wọn jọ ngbé yi. Bi Tanimọ̀la bá se oúnjẹ, ohun pẹ̀lú ọmọ àti ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ ni wọn jọ njẹ ẹ. Bi ìyàwó bá se oúnjẹ, á bu ti iyá-ọkọ rẹ. Kò si ìjá tàbi asọ̀ laarin wọn ti ó lè jẹ ki iyá funra.

àsáró-iṣu – Yam Pottage. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá gbà pé ohun burúkú ni ki enia jẹun lójú orun. Ni ọjọ́ kan, iyá ké lati ojú orun ni bi agogo mẹrin ìdájí òwúrọ̀, pe ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun ti fún ohun ni oúnjẹ jẹ ni ojú orun. Ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ kò sẹ́, bẹni kò sọ nkan kan. Ọkọ rẹ kò gba iyá rẹ gbọ. Lati igbà ti iyá ti ké pé ohun jẹ àsáró-iṣu ti ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun gbé fún òhun jẹ lójú orun ni inú rirun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ fún iyá. Inú rirun yi pọ̀ tó bẹ gẹ ẹ ti wọn fi gbé Tanimọ̀la kúrò ni ilé fún ìtọ́jú. Wọn gbiyànjú titi, kò rọrùn, nitori eyi, Tanimọ̀la ni ki wọn gbé ohun padà lọ si ilé ki ohun lọ kú. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2014-11-07 17:41:39. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

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Yorùba Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró – Yoruba Stop Bequeathing Widows. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ni ayé àtijọ́, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó wọ́pọ̀ ni Ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Obinrin ti ọkọ rẹ̀ bá kú wọn yio fi jogún gẹ́gẹ́ bi iyàwó fún ọmọ ọkọ ọkùnrin tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin. Eleyi wọ́pọ̀, pàtàki ni idilé Ọba, Ìjòyè nla, Ọlọ́rọ̀ ni àwùjọ àti àgbàlagbà ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀. Bi Ọba bá wàjà, Ọba titun yio ṣu gbogbo iyàwó ti ó bá láàfin lópó.

Ni ayé ọ̀làjú ti òde òni, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó ti din kù púpọ̀, nitori ẹ̀sìn àti àwọn obinrin ti ó kàwé ti ó si ni iṣẹ́ lọ́wọ́ kò ni gbà ki wọn ṣú ohun lópó fún ẹbi ọkọ ti kò ni ìfẹ́ si. Ọkùnrin ni ẹbi ọkọ na a ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si kọ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó silẹ̀ pàtàki àwọn ti ó bá kàwé, nitori ó ti lè ni iyàwó tàbi ki ó ni àfẹ́sọ́nà. Lai ti ẹ ni iyàwó, ọkùnrin ẹbi ọkọ lè ma ni ìfẹ́ si iyàwó ti ọkọ rẹ̀ kú. Àṣa ṣì ṣúpó kò wọ́pọ̀ mọ laarin àwọn ti ó jade, àwọn ti ó ngbé ilú nla àti Òkè-òkun tàbi àwọn ti ó kàwé, ṣùgbọ́n ó wọ́pọ̀ laarin àwọn ti kò jade kúrò ni Abúlé àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Idilé ti ifẹ bá wà laarin ẹbi, iyàwó pàápàá kò ni fẹ́ kúrò ni irú ẹbi bẹ́ ẹ̀ lati lọ fẹ́ ọkọ si idilé miran pàtàki nitori àwọn ọmọ tàbi ó dàgbà jù lati tun lọ fẹ ọkọ miran. Ọmọ ọkọ tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin lè fi àṣà yi kẹ́wọ́ lati fẹ opó ni tipátipá, omiran lè pa ọkọ lati lè jogún iyàwó. Bi iyàwó bá kú, wọn kò jẹ́ fi ọkọ rẹ jogún fún ẹbi iyàwó.

Àsikò tó lati dáwọ́ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó dúró nitori obinrin ki ṣe ẹrú tàbi ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ ogún.

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Originally posted 2015-09-18 19:53:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

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OWO NAIRA

Bi ọkọ ìyàwó bà ti lówó tó ni ó ti lè fi owó si inú àpò ìwé fún owó orí àti àwọn owó ẹbi yókù. Ni ayé òde òní, owó fún àpò ìwé méjìlá wọnyi lè bẹ̀rẹ̀ lati Aadọta Naira, ẹbí dẹ̀ lè din àpò ìwé kù lai ṣi àpò ìwé tàbi ka owó inú rẹ̀.

Òwe Yorùbá ni “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó rà”. Ìyàwó ìbílẹ̀ ki ṣe iṣẹ́ ọkọ-ìyàwó nikan, bi ẹbí ìyàwó bá wo àwọn ènìà pàtàkì lẹhin ọkọ, inú wọn a dùn ju owó lọ, nitori wọn a mọ̀ wípé ilé tó dára ni ọmọ wọn nlọ. Ọpọlọpọ ẹbí ki gba owó orí mọ, wọn a fún ẹbí ọkọ padà ni àpò ìwé owó orí pẹ̀lú ìkìlọ̀ wípé “ọmọ wọn ki ṣe tita, ṣùgbọ́n ki ọkọ àti ẹbi rẹ tọju ọmọ wọn”. Ẹ ṣe àyẹ̀wò àwọn ohun ti àpò ìwé owó wọnyi wà fún ni ojú ìwé yi.

ENGLISH LANGUAGE

The amount in the envelopes for bride price and other family envelopes are often depend on the purse of the groom. In this modern time, the amount in each of the twelve (12) envelopes can start from Fifty (50) Naira. The bride’s family can also use discretion to reduce the number of envelopes or not count the amount in the envelopes to assist the Groom.

According to Yoruba proverb, “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”. Traditional marriage ceremony is not the responsibility of the groom alone, if the bride’s family observe that the groom has good family support, he will be more honoured than preference for money. Many families are no longer collecting “Bride Price”, hence the symbolic envelopes containing the “Bride Price” is returned with a caution that “their daughter is not for sale, but the groom and his family should take good care”. Look through the list of envelopes and the purpose for which the envelope is used.

ÀPÒ OWÓ ÌYÀWÓ – BRIDAL MONEY ENVELOPES
Yorùbá	English	Iye Owó	Amount Naira	Iye ti agbára ká	Flexible Amount
Owó Ìkanlẹ̀kùn	Knocking on the door money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Irinna	Transportation money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Iwọlé	Entry money	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyá gbọ́	Money for mother-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Bàbá gbọ́	Money for father-in-law’s information	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìyàwó Ilé	Money for the Bridal family wives	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọkunrin Ilé	Money for Bridal family male youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ọmọbririn Ilé	Money for Bridal family female youths	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ijoko Àgbà	Money for the Bridal family elders’ sitting	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣígbá	Money for opening the Bridal Bride Price Dish	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Ìṣíjú Ìyàwó	Money for opening the Bridal Bridal veil cover	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	lati Aadọta Naira	From N50.00
Owó Orí	Bride Price	Ẹgbẹ̀rún Naira	N1,000.00	Ẹbí ìyàwó a ma dapadà	It is often returned

Originally posted 2015-03-13 10:15:11. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi: ìyànjú fún àwọn omidan” – “There are two hundred and one suitors to a spinster, only one would make a good husband: Caution for ladies”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, òbi si òbi àti ẹbi si ẹbi ló nṣe ètò iyàwó fi fẹ́ fún ọmọ ọkùnrin ti ó bá ti bàláágà, ti wọn rò pé ó lè tọ́jú iyàwó. Obinrin ki tètè bàláágà, nitori ki wọn tó bẹ̀rẹ̀ si ṣe nkan oṣù, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ obinrin ma ndàgbà tó bi ọdún mẹrin-din-lógún tàbi jù bẹ́ ẹ̀ lọ. Gẹgẹ bi wọn ti ma nsọ ni igbà igbéyàwó ibilẹ “òdòdó kán wà lágbàlá ti a fẹ́ já”, bi òbi tàbi ẹbi bá ṣe akiyesi ọmọ obinrin ti ó wù wọn lati fẹ́ fún ọmọ ọkunrin wọn, yálà idilé si idilé tàbi ni agbègbè ni ibi “ọdún omidan”, wọn yio lọ bá òbi/ẹbi obinrin na a lati bẹ̀rẹ̀ ètò bi wọn yio ti fẹ fún ọmọ wọn. Ni ayé igbàlódé, obinrin yára lati bàláágà, nitori omiran a bẹ̀rẹ̀ nkan oṣú ni bi ọmọ ọdún mọ́kànlá. Obinrin ki yára fẹ́ ọkọ mọ nitori ilé-iwé àti pé ki ṣe òbi àti ẹbi ló nfẹ́ obinrin fún ọmọ ọkùnrin mọ.

: Àwọn ọmọge – Bevy of beautiful ladies. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ọkùnrin fi ifẹ́ hàn pẹ̀lú ikúnlẹ̀I – Gentlemen showing interest. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá ma nlò ọ̀rọ̀ ti ó sọ pé “Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi” lati la obinrin lóye pé ki ṣe gbogbo ọkunrin ti ó bá wá bá obinrin lati sọ̀rọ̀ ifẹ́ ló ṣe tán lati fẹ́ iyàwó, gbogbo wọn kọ́ si ni “ọkọ gidi”. Kò yẹ ki obinrin kanra tàbi lé ọkùnrin ti ó bá kọ ẹnu ifẹ́ si wọn pẹ̀lú èébú, nitori Yorùbá sọ wipé, “A kì í kí aya-ọba kó di oyún” ṣùgbọ́n ki wọn farabalẹ̀ lati mọ irú ẹni ti ọkùnrin na a jẹ. Li lé ọkùnrin nigbati ọ̀pọ̀ ọkùnrin bá fẹ́ yan obinrin lọrẹ, pàtàki ni igba ti obinrin bá ṣẹ̀ṣẹ̀ bàláágà, lè fa ki obinrin ṣe àṣimú ni igba ti wọn bá ṣe tán lati fẹ́ ọkọ, nitori ó ti lè bọ́ si àsikò ikánjú. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2015-02-03 21:50:24. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

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Adarí Ètò Ijoko àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró – Traditional Master of Ceremony. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

A ṣe àkíyèsí pé wọn ti sọ iṣẹ́ ìyàwó-ilé di òwò nibi ìgbéyàwó ìbíl̀̀̀̀̀̀ẹ̀, pàtàki ni àwọn ilú nlá, nítorí èyí “ó ju alaga méjì tó ngbe inú ọkọ̀ bẹ ẹ. Wọn pè ìkan ni “Alaga Ìdúró” wọn pe ìkejì ni “Alaga Ijoko”. Gẹgẹbi àṣà ilẹ Yorùbá, kòsí bí “Ìyàwó ilé ti lè jẹ “Alaga” lórí ẹbí ọkọ tàbí ẹbí ìyàwó ti a ngbe. Ọkunrin ti o ti ṣe ìyàwó ti o yọri fún ọpọlọpọ ọdún, ti o si gbayí láwùjọ, yálà ni ìdílé ìyàwó tàbí ìdílé ọkọ ni a nfi si ipò “ALAGA” tàbí “OLÓRÍ ÀPÈJỌ.

Ìyàwó àgbà ni ìdílé ọkọ àti ti ìyàwó ni o ma nṣe aṣájú fún áwọn ìyàwó ilé yoku lati gbé tàbí gba igbá ìyàwó ni ibi ìgbéyàwó ìbílẹ. Ni ayé òde oni, a ṣe àkíyèsí wipé, ìdílé ìyàwó àti ọkọ, a san owó rẹpẹtẹ lati gba àwọn ti o yẹ ki a pè ni “Adarí Ètò Ijoko” fún ẹbi Ìyàwó àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró” fún ẹbi Ọkọ-ìyàwó”. Lẹhin ti àwọn obìnrin àjòjì yi ti gba owó iṣẹ́, wọn a sọ ara wọn di “Ọ̀GÁ”, wọn a ma pàṣe, wọn a ma ṣe bí ó ti wù wọn lati tún rí owó gbà lọ́wọ́ àwọn ẹbí mejeeji. Nípa ìwà yí, wọn a ma fi àkókò ṣòfò. Yorùbá ni “Alágbàtà tó nsọ ọjà di ọ̀wọ́n”.

“Ṣe bí wọn ti nṣe, ki o ba le ri bi o ṣe nri”, o yẹ ki á ti ọẃọ àṣàkasà yi bọlẹ̀. Ko ba àṣà mu lati sọ “Aṣojú awọn ìyàwó-Ilé” di “ALAGA”. Ipò méjèjì yàtọ sira, ó dẹ yẹ ki o dúró bẹ ẹ nítorí ọ̀gá méjì kò lè gbé inú ọkọ̀ kan.

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It can easily be observed that Traditional marriages have turned largely commercial in nature and as a result of this there are more than two captains in such a ship. One is called “SEATING IN CHAIRMAN” while the second is called “STANDING IN CHAIRMAN”. In Yoruba culture, “a Housewife” cannot be made the CHAIRMAN over her husband’s family in either the Bride or the Groom’s Family. The Chairman in the Traditional Marriage is often an honourable man with many years of married life, carefully chosen from either the Bride or Groom’s family. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2015-02-24 23:25:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Òrìṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé inú – Àṣà Ìkó-binrin-jọ: “The prayer of a woman to the god of heaven to have a co-wife/rival is not sincere” – The Culture of Polygamy

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Ọkùnrin kan pẹ̀lú iyàwó púpọ̀ wọ́pọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Àwọn obinrin ti ó bá́ fẹ́ ọkọ kan naa ni à ńpè ni “Orogún”. Ìwà oriṣiriṣi ni ó ma ńhàn ni ilé olórogún, àrù̀n iyàwó ti ó ńjalè, purọ́, ṣe àgbèrè, aláisàn, ti ó ńṣe òfófó, àti bẹ̃bẹ lọ, lè má hàn bi ó bá jẹ́ obinrin kan pẹ̀lú ọkọ rẹ ni ó ńgbe gẹ́gẹ́ bi ti ayé ode oni. Bi iyàwó bá ti pé meji, mẹta, bi àrù́n yi bá hàn si iyàwó keji, èébú dé, pataki ni àsikò ijà.

Ni ẹ̀sin ibilẹ̀, oye iyàwó ti ọkùnrin lè fẹ́, ko niye, pàtàki Ọba, Olóyè, Ọlọ́rọ̀ àti akikanjú ni àwùjọ. Bi àwọn ti ó ni ipò giga tabi òkìkí ni àwùjọ kò fẹ́ fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀, ará ilú á fi obinrin ta wọn lọ́rẹ. Ẹ̀sin igbàlódé pàtàki, ẹ̀sin igbàgbọ́ ti din àṣà ikó-binrin-jọ kù. Òfin ẹlẹ́sin igbàgbọ́ ni “ọkọ kan àti aya kan”. Bi o ti jẹ́ pé ẹ̀sin Musulumi gbà ki “Ọkùnrin lè fẹ́ iyàwó titi dé mẹrin”, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin Musulumi igbàlódé ńsá fún kikó iyàwó jọ.

Fẹlá Kúti fẹ́ iyàwó mẹta-din-lọgbọn ni ọjọ kan – Fela Kuti married 27 wives in one day

Yorùbá ni “Òriṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé nú”. Inú obinrin ti wọn fẹ́ iyàwó tẹ̀lé kò lè dùn dé inú, nitori eyi, kò lè fi gbogbo ọkàn rẹ tán ọkọ rẹ mọ, owú jijẹ á bẹ̀rẹ̀. Iyàwó kékeré lè dé ilé ri àbùkù ọkọ ti iyálé mú mọ́ra. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé oló-rogún kiki ijà àti ariwo laarin àwọn iyàwó àti àwọn ọmọ naa. Diẹ̀ ninú ọkùnrin ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀ ló ni igbádùn. Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ọkùnrin ti ó kó obinrin jọ ni ó ńsọ ẹ̀mi wọn nù ni ọjọ́ ai pẹ́ nitori ai ni ifọ̀kànbalẹ̀ àti àisàn ti bi bá obinrin púpọ̀ lò pọ̀ lè fà. Nitori eyi, ọkùnrin ti ó bá fẹ́ kó iyàwó jọ nilati múra gidigidi fun ohun ti ó ma gbẹ̀hìn àṣà yi.

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Originally posted 2014-06-10 18:00:13. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

ẸRÙ FÚN ÌDÍLÉ ÌYÀWÓ – LIST FOR BRIDE’S FAMILY – Apá Kẹta – Part Three

“Ni Ayé òde òni, njẹ́ ó yẹ ki a pọ́n Àṣà fi fẹ́ Iyàwó púpọ̀ lé ni Igbéyàwó Ìbílẹ̀ Yorùbá?” – “In Modern times, should Polygamy be encouraged in Yoruba Traditional Marriage?”

“Àpẹrẹ Ẹrú ati Owó Àna fún Ìtọrọ Iyàwó ni Idilé Arinmájàgbẹ̀” – “Sample of List for Traditional Marriage Items and Bride Price from Arinmajagbe Family”

“Àdúrà ló ńgbà, agbára ki gbà” – ohun èlò fún àdúrà ìbílẹ̀: “It is prayer that is answered, power is never answered” – Items used for traditional prayer.

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

Owó orí ìyàwó – “Bíbí ire kò ṣe fi owó ra”: Bride Price – “Good pedigree cannot be bought with money”

“Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi: ìyànjú fún àwọn omidan” – “There are two hundred and one suitors to a spinster, only one would make a good husband: Caution for ladies”

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

Òrìṣà òkè jẹ́ ki npé meji obinrin kò dé inú – Àṣà Ìkó-binrin-jọ: “The prayer of a woman to the god of heaven to have a co-wife/rival is not sincere” – The Culture of Polygamy

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