Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

Ìfẹ́ kò fọ́jú, ẹni ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú: ‘Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà òkùnkùn’ – Love is not blind, it is the person falling in love that is blind”: Marriage is not ‘Black Market’

Ni ayé àtijọ́, ki òbí tó gbà lati fi ọmọ fún ọkọ, wọn yio ṣe iwadi irú iwà àti àìsàn ti ó wọ́pọ̀ ni irú idile bẹ́ ẹ̀. Nitori eyi, igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ ayé àtijọ́ ma npẹ́ ju ti ayé òde òni. Bi ọmọ obinrin bá nlọ si ilé ọkọ, ikan ninu ẹrù tó ṣe pàtàki ni ki wọn gbé “ẹni” fún dáni lati fi han pé kò si àyè fun ni ilé òbi rẹ mọ nitori ó ti di ara kan pẹ̀lú ẹbi ọkọ rẹ.

Ọkùnrin fi ìfẹ́ han obinrin – Couple in love

Ni idà keji, obinrin ayé òde òni, kò dúró ki òbí ṣe iwadi rara, pàtàki bi wọn bá pàdé ni ilú nla ti èrò lati oriṣiriṣi ẹ̀yà pọ̀ si tàbi ni ilé-iwé. Ọkùnrin ri obinrin, wọn fi ìfẹ́ han si ara wọn, ó pari, ọ̀pọ̀ ki ṣe iwadi lati wo ohun ti àgbà tàbi òbí nwò ki wọn tó ṣe igbéyàwó. Obinrin ti lè lóyún ki òbí tó gbọ́ tàbi ki wọn tó lọ si ilé Ìjọ́sìn lati ṣe ètò igbéyàwó. Àwọn miran nkánjú, wọn kò lè dúró gba imọ̀ràn. Irú imọ̀ràn wo ni òbí tàbi Alufa fẹ́ fún ọkùnrin àti obinrin bẹ́ ẹ̀?

Ki ṣe “ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú”, ṣùgbọ́n “àwọn ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú” nitori, bi obinrin tàbi ọkùnrin miran bá ti ri owó, ẹwà, ipò agbára, wọn á dijú si àlébù miran ti ó wà lára ẹni ti wọn fẹ́ fẹ́. Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà̀ òkùnkùn, ṣùgbọ́n àwọn ti ó nwọ̀ ọ́ ni ó dijú, nitori nigbati àlébù ti wọn dijú si bá bẹ̀rẹ̀ si jade lẹhin igbéyàwó, igbéyàwó á túká.

Ìmọ̀ràn fún ọkùnrin àti obinrin ti ó nronú lati ṣe igbéyàwó ni ki wọn lajú, ki wọn si farabalẹ̀ ṣe iwadi irú iwa ti wọn lè gbà lati fi bára gbé lai wo ohun ayé bi ẹwà, owó àti ipò nitori ìwà ló ṣe kókó jù fún igbéyàwó ti yio di alẹ́.

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Originally posted 2015-01-06 09:00:19. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì” – “There is no respect for a King that has no Queen”

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Ọ̀rọ̀ Yorùbá ni “Bi ọmọdé bá tó ni ọkọ́, à fún lọ́kọ́”. Ọkọ́ jẹ irinṣẹ́ pàtàki fún Àgbẹ̀. Iṣẹ́-àgbẹ̀ ni ó wọ́pọ̀ ni ayé àtijọ́. Nitori eyi, bi bàbá ti nkọ́ ọmọ rẹ ọkùnrin ni iṣẹ-àgbẹ̀, ni ìyá nkọ́ ọmọ obinrin rẹ ni ìtọ́jú-ile lati kọ fún ilé-ọkọ. Iṣẹ́ la fi nmọ ọmọ ọkùnrin, nitori eyi, bi ọkùnrin bá dàgbà, bàbá rẹ á fun ni ọkọ́ nitori ki ó lè dá dúró lati lè ṣe iṣẹ́ ti yio fi bọ́ ẹbi rẹ ni ọjọ́ iwájú.

Bi ọkùnrin bá ni iṣẹ́, ó ku kó gbéyàwó ti yio jẹ “Olorì” ni ilé rẹ. Ìyàwó fi fẹ́ bu iyi kún ọkùnrin, nitori, ó fi hàn pé ó ni igbẹ́kẹ̀lé. Àṣà Yorùbá gbà fún ọkùnrin lati fẹ́ iye ìyàwó ti agbára rẹ bá gbé lati tọ́jú. Nitori eyi, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ Ọba, Baálẹ̀, Ìjòyè àti àwọn enia pàtàki láwùjọ ma nfẹ ìyàwó púpọ̀. Ìṣòro ni ki wọn fi ọkùnrin ti kò ni ìyàwó jẹ Ọba. Kò wọ́pọ̀ ki Ọba ni ìyàwó kan ṣoṣo.

Ìwúyè Ọba Àkúrẹ́, Olóògbé Ọba Adebiyi Adeṣida – Coronation of the Late Deji of Akure.

Ohun ti a ṣe akiyesi ni ayé òde òni, ni Ọba ti ó fẹ ìyàwó kan ṣoṣo nitori ẹ̀sìn, pàtàki ẹ̀sìn Ìgbàgbọ́, ṣùgbọ́n ti ó ni àlè rẹpẹtẹ. Ọba ayé òde òni ndá nikan lọ si òde lai mú Olorì dáni. Gẹgẹbi ọ̀rọ̀ Yorùbá, “Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì”, nitori eyi, kò bu iyi kún Ọba, ki ó lọ àwùjó tàbi rin irin àjò pàtàki lai mú Olorì dáni. Ohun ti ó yẹ Ọba ni ki a ri Ọba àti Olorì rẹ ni ẹ̀gbẹ́ rẹ.

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Originally posted 2014-11-11 19:13:42. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi: ìyànjú fún àwọn omidan” – “There are two hundred and one suitors to a spinster, only one would make a good husband: Caution for ladies”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, òbi si òbi àti ẹbi si ẹbi ló nṣe ètò iyàwó fi fẹ́ fún ọmọ ọkùnrin ti ó bá ti bàláágà, ti wọn rò pé ó lè tọ́jú iyàwó. Obinrin ki tètè bàláágà, nitori ki wọn tó bẹ̀rẹ̀ si ṣe nkan oṣù, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ obinrin ma ndàgbà tó bi ọdún mẹrin-din-lógún tàbi jù bẹ́ ẹ̀ lọ. Gẹgẹ bi wọn ti ma nsọ ni igbà igbéyàwó ibilẹ “òdòdó kán wà lágbàlá ti a fẹ́ já”, bi òbi tàbi ẹbi bá ṣe akiyesi ọmọ obinrin ti ó wù wọn lati fẹ́ fún ọmọ ọkunrin wọn, yálà idilé si idilé tàbi ni agbègbè ni ibi “ọdún omidan”, wọn yio lọ bá òbi/ẹbi obinrin na a lati bẹ̀rẹ̀ ètò bi wọn yio ti fẹ fún ọmọ wọn. Ni ayé igbàlódé, obinrin yára lati bàláágà, nitori omiran a bẹ̀rẹ̀ nkan oṣú ni bi ọmọ ọdún mọ́kànlá. Obinrin ki yára fẹ́ ọkọ mọ nitori ilé-iwé àti pé ki ṣe òbi àti ẹbi ló nfẹ́ obinrin fún ọmọ ọkùnrin mọ.

: Àwọn ọmọge – Bevy of beautiful ladies. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ọkùnrin fi ifẹ́ hàn pẹ̀lú ikúnlẹ̀I – Gentlemen showing interest. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá ma nlò ọ̀rọ̀ ti ó sọ pé “Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi” lati la obinrin lóye pé ki ṣe gbogbo ọkunrin ti ó bá wá bá obinrin lati sọ̀rọ̀ ifẹ́ ló ṣe tán lati fẹ́ iyàwó, gbogbo wọn kọ́ si ni “ọkọ gidi”. Kò yẹ ki obinrin kanra tàbi lé ọkùnrin ti ó bá kọ ẹnu ifẹ́ si wọn pẹ̀lú èébú, nitori Yorùbá sọ wipé, “A kì í kí aya-ọba kó di oyún” ṣùgbọ́n ki wọn farabalẹ̀ lati mọ irú ẹni ti ọkùnrin na a jẹ. Li lé ọkùnrin nigbati ọ̀pọ̀ ọkùnrin bá fẹ́ yan obinrin lọrẹ, pàtàki ni igba ti obinrin bá ṣẹ̀ṣẹ̀ bàláágà, lè fa ki obinrin ṣe àṣimú ni igba ti wọn bá ṣe tán lati fẹ́ ọkọ, nitori ó ti lè bọ́ si àsikò ikánjú. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2015-02-03 21:50:24. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

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Yorùba Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró – Yoruba Stop Bequeathing Widows. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Ni ayé àtijọ́, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó wọ́pọ̀ ni Ilẹ̀ Yorùbá. Obinrin ti ọkọ rẹ̀ bá kú wọn yio fi jogún gẹ́gẹ́ bi iyàwó fún ọmọ ọkọ ọkùnrin tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin. Eleyi wọ́pọ̀, pàtàki ni idilé Ọba, Ìjòyè nla, Ọlọ́rọ̀ ni àwùjọ àti àgbàlagbà ti ó fẹ́ iyàwó púpọ̀. Bi Ọba bá wàjà, Ọba titun yio ṣu gbogbo iyàwó ti ó bá láàfin lópó.

Ni ayé ọ̀làjú ti òde òni, àṣà ṣì ṣúpó ti din kù púpọ̀, nitori ẹ̀sìn àti àwọn obinrin ti ó kàwé ti ó si ni iṣẹ́ lọ́wọ́ kò ni gbà ki wọn ṣú ohun lópó fún ẹbi ọkọ ti kò ni ìfẹ́ si. Ọkùnrin ni ẹbi ọkọ na a ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si kọ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó silẹ̀ pàtàki àwọn ti ó bá kàwé, nitori ó ti lè ni iyàwó tàbi ki ó ni àfẹ́sọ́nà. Lai ti ẹ ni iyàwó, ọkùnrin ẹbi ọkọ lè ma ni ìfẹ́ si iyàwó ti ọkọ rẹ̀ kú. Àṣa ṣì ṣúpó kò wọ́pọ̀ mọ laarin àwọn ti ó jade, àwọn ti ó ngbé ilú nla àti Òkè-òkun tàbi àwọn ti ó kàwé, ṣùgbọ́n ó wọ́pọ̀ laarin àwọn ti kò jade kúrò ni Abúlé àti àwọn ti kò kàwé.

Idilé ti ifẹ bá wà laarin ẹbi, iyàwó pàápàá kò ni fẹ́ kúrò ni irú ẹbi bẹ́ ẹ̀ lati lọ fẹ́ ọkọ si idilé miran pàtàki nitori àwọn ọmọ tàbi ó dàgbà jù lati tun lọ fẹ ọkọ miran. Ọmọ ọkọ tàbi ẹbi ọkọ ọkùnrin lè fi àṣà yi kẹ́wọ́ lati fẹ opó ni tipátipá, omiran lè pa ọkọ lati lè jogún iyàwó. Bi iyàwó bá kú, wọn kò jẹ́ fi ọkọ rẹ jogún fún ẹbi iyàwó.

Àsikò tó lati dáwọ́ àṣà ṣì ṣúpó dúró nitori obinrin ki ṣe ẹrú tàbi ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ ogún.

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Originally posted 2015-09-18 19:53:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

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Ìtàn ti ó wọ́pọ̀ ni, bi iyá-ọkọ ti burú lai ri ìtàn iyá-ọkọ ti ó dára sọ. Eyi dákún àṣà burúkú ti ó gbòde láyé òde òni, nipa àwọn ọmọge ti ó ti tó wọ ilé-ọkọ tàbi obinrin àfẹ́sọ́nà ma a sọ pé àwọn ò fẹ́ ri iyá-ọkọ tàbi ki iyá-ọkọ ti kú ki àwọn tó délé.

Ni ayé àtijọ́, agbègbè kan na a ni ẹbi má ngbé – bàbá-àgbà, iyá-àgbà, bàbá, iyá, ẹ̀gbọ́n, àbúrò, iyàwó àgbà, iyàwó kékeré, ìyàwó-ọmọ, àwọn ọmọ àti ọmọ-mọ. Ṣùgbọ́n ni ayé òde òni, ọ̀pọ̀ kò fẹ́ ṣe iṣẹ́ àgbẹ̀ mọ, ẹbi ti fúnká si ilú nlá àti òkè-òkun nitori iṣẹ́ ajé àti iṣẹ́-ijọba.

Ni ọ̀pọ̀ ọdún sẹhin, iyá kan wà ti a o pe orúkọ rẹ ni Tanimọ̀la ninú ìtàn yi. Ó bi ọmọ ọkùnrin meje lai bi obinrin. Kékeré ni àwọn ọmọ rẹ wà nigbati ọkọ rẹ kú. Tanimọ̀la fi ìṣẹ́ àti ìyà tọ́ àwọn ọmọ rẹ, gbogbo àwọn ọkùnrin na a si yàn wọn yanjú. Nigbati wọn bẹ̀rẹ̀ si fẹ́ ìyàwó, inú rẹ dùn púpọ̀ pé Ọlọrun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ si dá obinrin ti ohun kò bi padà fún ohun. Ó fẹ́ràn àwọn ìyàwó ọmọ rẹ gidigidi ṣùgbọ́n ọ̀pọ̀ ọmọ rẹ kó lọ si ilú miran pẹ̀lú ìyàwó wọn nitori iṣẹ́. Àbi-gbẹhin rẹ nikan ni kò kúrò ni ilé nitori ohun ló bójú tó oko àti ilé ti bàbá wọn fi silẹ. Nigbati ó fẹ ìyàwó wálé, inú iyá dùn pé ohun yio ri ẹni bá gbé. Ìyàwó yi lẹ́wà, o si ni ọ̀yàyà, eyi tún jẹ́ ki iyá-ọkọ rẹ fẹ́ràn si gidigidi.

Yorùbá ni “Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni”. Tanimọ̀la kò mọ̀ pé àjẹ́ ni ìyàwó-ọmọ ti ohun fẹ́ràn, ti wọn jọ ngbé yi. Bi Tanimọ̀la bá se oúnjẹ, ohun pẹ̀lú ọmọ àti ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ ni wọn jọ njẹ ẹ. Bi ìyàwó bá se oúnjẹ, á bu ti iyá-ọkọ rẹ. Kò si ìjá tàbi asọ̀ laarin wọn ti ó lè jẹ ki iyá funra.

àsáró-iṣu – Yam Pottage. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá gbà pé ohun burúkú ni ki enia jẹun lójú orun. Ni ọjọ́ kan, iyá ké lati ojú orun ni bi agogo mẹrin ìdájí òwúrọ̀, pe ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun ti fún ohun ni oúnjẹ jẹ ni ojú orun. Ìyàwó-ọmọ rẹ kò sẹ́, bẹni kò sọ nkan kan. Ọkọ rẹ kò gba iyá rẹ gbọ. Lati igbà ti iyá ti ké pé ohun jẹ àsáró-iṣu ti ìyàwó-ọmọ ohun gbé fún òhun jẹ lójú orun ni inú rirun ti bẹ̀rẹ̀ fún iyá. Inú rirun yi pọ̀ tó bẹ gẹ ẹ ti wọn fi gbé Tanimọ̀la kúrò ni ilé fún ìtọ́jú. Wọn gbiyànjú titi, kò rọrùn, nitori eyi, Tanimọ̀la ni ki wọn gbé ohun padà lọ si ilé ki ohun lọ kú. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2014-11-07 17:41:39. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

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Adarí Ètò Ijoko àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró – Traditional Master of Ceremony. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

A ṣe àkíyèsí pé wọn ti sọ iṣẹ́ ìyàwó-ilé di òwò nibi ìgbéyàwó ìbíl̀̀̀̀̀̀ẹ̀, pàtàki ni àwọn ilú nlá, nítorí èyí “ó ju alaga méjì tó ngbe inú ọkọ̀ bẹ ẹ. Wọn pè ìkan ni “Alaga Ìdúró” wọn pe ìkejì ni “Alaga Ijoko”. Gẹgẹbi àṣà ilẹ Yorùbá, kòsí bí “Ìyàwó ilé ti lè jẹ “Alaga” lórí ẹbí ọkọ tàbí ẹbí ìyàwó ti a ngbe. Ọkunrin ti o ti ṣe ìyàwó ti o yọri fún ọpọlọpọ ọdún, ti o si gbayí láwùjọ, yálà ni ìdílé ìyàwó tàbí ìdílé ọkọ ni a nfi si ipò “ALAGA” tàbí “OLÓRÍ ÀPÈJỌ.

Ìyàwó àgbà ni ìdílé ọkọ àti ti ìyàwó ni o ma nṣe aṣájú fún áwọn ìyàwó ilé yoku lati gbé tàbí gba igbá ìyàwó ni ibi ìgbéyàwó ìbílẹ. Ni ayé òde oni, a ṣe àkíyèsí wipé, ìdílé ìyàwó àti ọkọ, a san owó rẹpẹtẹ lati gba àwọn ti o yẹ ki a pè ni “Adarí Ètò Ijoko” fún ẹbi Ìyàwó àti “Adarí Ètò Ìdúró” fún ẹbi Ọkọ-ìyàwó”. Lẹhin ti àwọn obìnrin àjòjì yi ti gba owó iṣẹ́, wọn a sọ ara wọn di “Ọ̀GÁ”, wọn a ma pàṣe, wọn a ma ṣe bí ó ti wù wọn lati tún rí owó gbà lọ́wọ́ àwọn ẹbí mejeeji. Nípa ìwà yí, wọn a ma fi àkókò ṣòfò. Yorùbá ni “Alágbàtà tó nsọ ọjà di ọ̀wọ́n”.

“Ṣe bí wọn ti nṣe, ki o ba le ri bi o ṣe nri”, o yẹ ki á ti ọẃọ àṣàkasà yi bọlẹ̀. Ko ba àṣà mu lati sọ “Aṣojú awọn ìyàwó-Ilé” di “ALAGA”. Ipò méjèjì yàtọ sira, ó dẹ yẹ ki o dúró bẹ ẹ nítorí ọ̀gá méjì kò lè gbé inú ọkọ̀ kan.

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It can easily be observed that Traditional marriages have turned largely commercial in nature and as a result of this there are more than two captains in such a ship. One is called “SEATING IN CHAIRMAN” while the second is called “STANDING IN CHAIRMAN”. In Yoruba culture, “a Housewife” cannot be made the CHAIRMAN over her husband’s family in either the Bride or the Groom’s Family. The Chairman in the Traditional Marriage is often an honourable man with many years of married life, carefully chosen from either the Bride or Groom’s family. Continue reading →

Originally posted 2015-02-24 23:25:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin ni Àṣà Yorùbá ” – “Same Sex Marriage is a strage occurrence to Yoruba Traditional Marriage”

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Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà yi Àṣà Ìgbéyàwó Àdáyébá padà ni ilú Àmẹ́ríka. Ni ọjọ́ Ẹti, Oṣù kẹfà, ọjọ́ Kẹrindinlọ́gbọ́n, ọdún Ẹgbãlemẹdógún, Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà ti ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ṣe òfin pé “Kò si Ìpínlẹ̀ Àmẹ́ríkà ti ó ni ẹ̀tọ́ lati kọ igbéyàwó laarin ọkùnrin pẹ̀lú ọkùnrin tàbi obinrin pẹ̀lú obinrin”. Ijà fún ẹ̀tọ́ lati ṣe irú igbeyawo yi ti wà lati bi ọdún mẹrindinlãdọta sẹhin, ṣùgbọ́n ni oṣù kẹfà, ọdún Ẹgbãlemẹ́tàlá, Ilé Ẹjọ́ Àgbà fi àṣẹ si pé ki Ìjọba Àpapọ̀ gba àṣà ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin, lati jẹ ki àwọn ti ó bá ṣe irú igbéyàwó yi lè gba ẹ̀tọ́ ti ó tọ́ si igbéyàwó àdáyébá – ohun ti ó tọ́ si ọkùnrin ti o fẹ́ obinrin, nipa ogún pinpin, owó ori tàbi bi igbéyàwó ba túká.

Julia Tate, left, kisses her wife, Lisa McMillin, in Nashville, Tennessee, after the reading the results of the <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2013/06/26/politics/scotus-same-sex-main/index.html">Supreme Court rulings on same-sex marriage</a> on Wednesday, June 26. The high court struck down key parts of the <a href="http://www.cnn.com/interactive/2013/06/politics/scotus-ruling-windsor/index.html">Defense of Marriage Act</a> and cleared the way for same-sex marriages to resume in California by rejecting an appeal on the state's <a href="http://www.cnn.com/interactive/2013/06/politics/scotus-ruling-perry/index.html">Proposition 8</a>.

Obinrin fẹ́ obinrin – Lesbian Relationship reactions to the Supreme Court Ruling

Ìjọba-àpapọ̀ ti ilú Àmẹ́ríkà gba òfin yi wọlé nitori “Òfin-Òṣèlú ni wọn fi ndari ilú Àmẹ́ríkà”. Lati igbà ti ìròyìn ìdájọ́ yi ti jade, ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ni àgbáyé, pàtàki àwọn Ẹlẹ́sin Igbàgbọ́ ti nda ẹ̀bi fún Ìjọba Àmẹ́ríkà pé wọn rú òfin Ọlọrun nipa Igbéyàwó.

Ni àṣà igbéyàwó Yorùbá, èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin. Ki ẹbi ma ba parẹ́, ọmọ bibi jẹ ikan ninú ohun pàtàki ni igbéyàwó. Bi ọkùnrin bá fẹ́ ọkùnrin, wọn ò lè bi ọmọ lai si pé wọn gba ọmọ tọ́ tàbi ki wọn wa obinrin ti yio bá wọn bi ọmọ tàbi bi ó bá jẹ laarin obinrin meji ti ó fẹ́ ara, ikan ninú obinrin yi ti lè bimọ tẹ́lẹ̀ tàbi ki ó wá ọkùnrin ti yio fún ohun lóyún ki wọn lè ni ọmọ ni irú igbéyàwó yi.

Yorùbá ni “Bi a ti nṣe ni ilé wa, èèwọ̀ ibòmíràn” òfin Àmẹ́ríkà yi jẹ́ èèmọ̀ ni ilẹ̀ Yorùbá nitori a kò gbọ tàbi ka a ninú itàn àṣà Yoruba . Ki ṣe gbogbo èèmọ̀ ni ó dára, fún àpẹrẹ, ni igbà kan ri èèmọ̀ ni ki èniyàn bi àfin, tàbi bi ibeji nitori eyi, wọn ma npa ikan ninú àwọn meji yi ni tàbi ki wọn jù wọn si igbó lati kú, ṣùgbọ́n láyé òde òni àṣà ji ju ibeji tàbi ibẹta si igbó ti dúró. Kò yẹ ki ẹnikẹni pa ẹnikeji nitori àwọ̀ ara tàbi nitori ẹni ti èniyàn bá ni ìfẹ́ si. Ni ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ni àwọn ti ó fi ẹsin Ìgbàgbọ́ bojú ti kó si abẹ́ àwọn Aṣòfin ilú Àmẹ́ríkà ni ayé àtijọ́ pé Aláwọ̀dúdú ki ṣe èniyàn, nitori eyi, ó lòdi si òfin ki Aláwọ̀dúdú fẹ́ Aláwọ̀funfun, bi wọn bá fẹ́ra, wọn kò kà wọn kún tàbi ka irú ọmọ bẹ ẹ si èniyàn gidi. Bẹni wọn lo òfin burúkú yi naa lati pa Aláwọ̀dúdú lẹhin isin ni aarin igboro lai ya Aláwọ̀dúdú ti wọn kó lẹ́rú lati ilẹ Yorùbá sọtọ. Ogun abẹ́lé àti ṣi ṣe Òfin Àpapọ̀ tuntun lẹhin ogun, ni wọn fi gba àwọn Aláwọ̀dúdú silẹ̀ ni ilú Àmẹ́ríkà.

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Originally posted 2015-07-21 19:46:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”: Introduction, “He who goes to speak grammar in the in-law’s place will interpret it”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, òbi ni o nfẹ iyàwó fún ọmọ ọkùnrin wọn. Bi òbi bá ri ọmọ obinrin ti o dára ni idile ti o dára, wọn á lọ fi ara hàn lati tọrọ rẹ fún ọmọ wọn ọkunrin. Àṣà yi ti yàtọ̀ ni ayé òde òni, nitori awọn ọmọ igbàlódé kò wo idile tabi gbà ki òbi fẹ́ iyàwó tabi ọkọ fún wọn. Ọkùnrin àti obinrin ti lè má bára wọn gbé – wọn ti lè bi ọmọ, tabi jẹ ọ̀rẹ́ fún igbà pipẹ́ tabi ki wọn ṣẹ̀ṣẹ̀ pàdé, wọn yio fi tó òbi leti bi wọn bá rò pé awọn ti ṣetán lati ṣe ìgbéyàwó.

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, jẹ ikan ninu ìgbésẹ̀ àkọ́kọ́ ninu ètò igbeyawo ibilẹ̀. Yorùbá ni “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”, nitori eyi ẹbi ọkọ kò gbọ́dọ̀ ṣe ìgbéraga ni ilé àna bi ó ti wù ki wọn ni ọlá tó. Ẹbi ọkọ yio tọ ẹbi iyàwó lọ lati fi ara hàn ati lati ṣe àlàyé ohun ti wọn ba wa fún ẹbi obinrin.

: Ohun mimu ìgbàlódé ninu ẹru mọ̀ mi, nmọ̀ ẹ́ – Carton of modern drink among other packages for introduction. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Ẹ̀bùn didi fún mọ̀ mi, nmọ̀ ẹ́ – Wrapped gifts for Introduction. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

: Àkàrà òyinbó, èso, pẹ̀lú ẹrù tó kù – Carton of biscuit, fruit plus other items. Courtesy: @theyorubablog

Yorùbá ni “A ki lọ si ilé arúgbó ni ọ̀fẹ́”, nitori eyi, ẹbi ọkọ yio gbé ẹ̀bùn lọ fún ẹbi ìyàwó. Ọpọlọpọ igbà, apẹ̀rẹ̀ èso ni ẹbi ọkọ ma ngbé lọ fún ẹbi ìyàwó ṣugbọn láyé òde òni, wọn ti fi pãli èso olómi dipo apẹ̀rẹ̀ èso, ohun didùn, àkàrà òyinbó tabi ọti òyinbó dipò. Kò si ináwó rẹpẹtẹ ni ètò mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, nitori ohun ti ẹbi ọkọ ba di dani ni ẹbi ìyàwó yio gba, ẹbi ìyàwó na yio ṣe àlejò nipa pi pèsè ounjẹ.

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, o yẹ ki o fa ariwo, nitori ki ṣe gbogbo ẹbi lo nlọ fi ara hàn ẹbi àfẹ́-sọ́nà. A ṣe akiyesi pé awọn ti ó wá ni ilú nlá tabi awọn ọlọ́rọ̀ ti sọ di nkan nla. Èrò ki pọ bi ti ọjọ ìgbéyàwó ibilẹ. Ẹ ranti pé ki ṣe bi ẹbi bá ti náwó tó ni ó lè mú ìgbéyàwó yọri. Ẹ jẹ ki a gbiyànjú lati ṣe ohun gbogbo ni iwọntunwọnsin. Eyi ti o ṣe pataki jù ni lati gba ọkọ àti ìyàwó ni ìmọ̀ràn bi wọn ti lè gbé ìgbésí ayé rere.

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Originally posted 2015-03-24 09:30:01. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

“Ẹ Kú Ọwọ́ Lómi Là Nki Ọlọ́mọ Tuntun – Ìtọ́jú Ọmọ Tuntun ni Àtijọ́”: “Greetings to the Nursing Mothers whose hands are always wet – Yoruba Culture of Nursing a Baby in the Old Days”

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Ni ayé àtijọ́, kò si itẹdi à lò sọnù bi ti ayé òde òni. Bẹni wọn kò lo ìgò oúnjẹ lati fún ọmọ tuntun ni oúnjẹ.

Ri rọ ọmọ – Yoruba Traditional baby feeding. Courtesy:@theyorubablog

Ọwọ́ ọlọ́mọ tuntun ki kúrò ni omi nitori omi ni wọn fi nto àgbo ti wọn nrọ ọmọ fún ìtọ́jú ọmọ tuntun. Aṣọ àlòkù Bàbá, Ìyá àti ẹbi ni wọn nya si wẹ́wẹ́ lati ṣe itẹdi ọmọ nitori kò si itẹdi à lò sọnú bi ti ayé òde òni.

Ọmọ tuntun a ma ya ìgbẹ́ àti ìtọ̀ tó igbà mẹwa tàbi jù bẹ́ ẹ̀ lọ ni ojúmọ́. Ọmọ ki i sùn ni ọ̀tọ̀, ẹ̀gbẹ́ ìyá ọmọ ni wọn ntẹ́ ọmọ si. Lẹhin ọsẹ̀ mẹ́fà tàbi ogoji ọjọ́ tàbi ó lé kan ti wọn ti bi ọmọ, ìyá àti ọmọ lè lọ òde, ìyá á pọn ọmọ lati jáde.

Nitori aṣọ ni itẹdi kò gba omi dúró, bi ọmọ bá tọ̀ tàbi ya ìgbẹ́, á yi aṣọ ìyá tàbi ẹni ti ó gbé ọmọ. Kò si ẹ̀rọ ifọṣọ igbàlódé nitori na a, ó di dandan ki wọ́n fọ aṣọ ọmọ àti ẹni ti ó gbé ọmọ ni igbà gbogbo ni ilé ọlọ́mọ tuntun. Eyi ni ó jẹ́ ki Yorùbá ma ki ẹni ti ó bá ntọ ọmọ lọ́wọ́ pé “Ẹ kú ọwọ lómi” nitori ọwọ́ ki kúrò ni omi aṣọ fí fọ̀.

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In the old days, there were no disposable diaper as common as it has become in recent times. Also, babies were not bottle fed. Continue reading →

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“A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” – “One does not acknowledge one’s child husband and also acknowledge her illicit affair”

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Igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ – Traditional marriage

Ni ayé àtijọ́, wọn ma ńfi obinrin fún ọkọ ni, ṣùgbọ́n ni ayé òde òni, obinrin á mú̀ àfẹ́sọ́nà lati fi hàn òbi, nitori Yorùbá gba ọmọ obinrin ni àyè lati lọ si ilé-iwé, tàbi kọ́ iṣẹ́-ọwọ́, àti lati ṣe òwò. Èyi jẹ ki obinrin kúrò lọ́dọ̀ obi wọn. Bi obinrin bá ti dàgbà tó bi ọdún meji-din-logun, ti ó tó wọ ilé-ọkọ, àwọn òbi yio ma ran léti pé, ó ti tó mú ọkọ wálé.

Ẹni ti obinrin mọ̀ pé òhun kò lè fẹ́, bi àfojúdi ni lati fi irú ọkùnrin bẹ̃ han òbi. Bi obinrin ti ó ti dàgbà tó lati wọ ilé ọkọ bá mú àfẹ́sọ́nà wá han òbi, wọn yio fi òwe Yorùbá ti ó ni “A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” ṣe iwadi pé, ṣe ó da lójú pé òhun yio fẹ ọkùnrin ti ó mú wá? Òwe yi tún wúlò lati fi ṣe ikilọ nigbà igbéyàwó ibilẹ̀ fún obinrin pé kò lè mú ọkùnrin miràn wá lẹhin igbéyàwó.

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Originally posted 2014-07-08 23:02:45. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Category Archives: Yoruba Traditional Marriage

Ìfẹ́ kò fọ́jú, ẹni ti ó wọnú ìfẹ́ ló fọ́jú: ‘Igbéyàwó ki ṣe ọjà òkùnkùn’ – Love is not blind, it is the person falling in love that is blind”: Marriage is not ‘Black Market’

“Àpọ́nlé kò si fún Ọba ti kò ni Olorì” – “There is no respect for a King that has no Queen”

“Ọ̀kan-lé-nigba lọkọ ọmọge, ikan ori rẹ ni ọkọ gidi: ìyànjú fún àwọn omidan” – “There are two hundred and one suitors to a spinster, only one would make a good husband: Caution for ladies”

“Obinrin ki ṣe Ẹrú tabi Ẹrù ti wọn njẹ mọ́ Ogún – Àsikò tó lati Dáwọ́ Àṣà ṣì Ṣúpó Dúró” – “Women are not Slaves nor Property that can be inherited – “It is Time to Stop Bequeathing Widows to the Next-of-Kin.”

Ìtàn iyàwó ti ó fi ẹ̀mi òkùnkùn pa iyá-ọkọ: Ẹni a fẹ́ la mọ̀, a ò mọ ẹni tó fẹni” – The story of how a daughter-in-law killed her mother-in-law in mysterious circumstance – We can only be sure of who we love, but not sure of who loves us”

Ìgbéyàwó Ìbílẹ́ Yorùbá: “Ọ̀gá Méji Kò Lè Gbé inú Ọkọ̀” – Yoruba Traditional Marriage Ceremony: “Two Masters cannot steer a ship”

“Èèmọ̀ ni ki ọkùnrin fẹ́ ọkùnrin tàbi ki obinrin fẹ́ obinrin ni Àṣà Yorùbá ” – “Same Sex Marriage is a strage occurrence to Yoruba Traditional Marriage”

Mọ̀ mí, nmọ̀ ẹ́, “Ẹni tó lọ si ilé àna, lọ sọ èdè oyinbo, ni yio túmọ̀ rẹ”: Introduction, “He who goes to speak grammar in the in-law’s place will interpret it”

“Ẹ Kú Ọwọ́ Lómi Là Nki Ọlọ́mọ Tuntun – Ìtọ́jú Ọmọ Tuntun ni Àtijọ́”: “Greetings to the Nursing Mothers whose hands are always wet – Yoruba Culture of Nursing a Baby in the Old Days”

“A ki mọ́ ọkọ ọmọ, ki a tún mọ àlè rẹ” – “One does not acknowledge one’s child husband and also acknowledge her illicit affair”

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