Òwe Yorùbá sọ pé “Ẹni a lè mú, là nlèdí mọ́”. Òwe yi fi iwà burúkú nipa ìwà/ìjà-agbára ti ó nṣẹlè ni inú ilé, pàtàki laarin ọkùnrin àti obinrin tàbi ọkọ àti ìyàwó. Ki ṣe ọkùnrin nikan ló nhu ìwà/ìjà-agbára si obinrin, obinrin oníjà miran ma nhu ìwà/ìjà-agbára si ọkùnrin tàbi si ọkọ, ṣùgbọ́n, eyi ti ó wọ́pọ̀ jù ni ọkùnrin si obinrin.
Bawo ni ènìyaìn ṣe lè sọ pé, ohun ni ìfẹ́ nigbati ó bá hu ìwà-agbára si ẹni ti ó fẹ́ràn? Ọ̀pọ̀lọpọ̀ ilé yi, ẹni tó nhu ìwà/ìjà-agbára ìwà burúkú ma nṣe si ẹni ti wọn bá rò pé àwọn lè mú tàbi ti wọn ni agbára ni ori rẹ. Àwọn ti wọn hu iwa-agbara si yi, ki le fi ẹjọ́ sùn, nitori ìbẹ̀rù ẹni ti ó ni agbára jù wọn lọ, pàtàki laarin ọkọ àti aya. Obinrin ti ó njẹ iya ìwà/ìjà-agbára ki lé tètè kúrò tàbi ki wọn fi ẹjọ́ sùn nitori àwọn idi pàtàki bi: ìfẹ́ si ẹni ti ó nhu ìwà/ìjà-agbára; àyípadà; itiju ki èrò ma gbọ́; ai fẹ ki ìgbéyàwó túká; ai lè dá dúró nitori owó tàbi àwọn ọmọ ti wọn bi si irú ilé bẹ-ẹ; ìyà ti mọ́ra; àti bẹ́ẹ̀bẹ́ẹ̀ lọ.
ìjà-agbára ti “Ray Rice” hu – Ray Rice-elevator-knockout-fiancee-takes-crushing-punch-video/
Ìbínú burúkú ló nfa iwa/ija-agbara. Igbẹhin ìwà/ìjà-agbára ki já si ire, nitori irú ìwà burúkú yi lè fa ikú ojiji; àrùn ọpọlọ; ìrẹ̀wẹ̀sì; li lọ si ẹ̀wọ̀n; ìbànújẹ́ fún àwọn ọmọ; àbùkù fún ẹni ti ó hu irú ìwà yi àti bẹ́ẹ̀bẹ́ẹ̀ lọ. Irú àbùkù yi ló kan “Ray Rice” nigbati ìjà-agbára ti ó bá Àfẹ́sọ́nà rẹ̀ jà ninú ẹ̀rọ-àkàbà ti ó lu jade si gbogbo àgbáyé ninú ìròyìn àti ori ayélujára. Gẹgẹbi òwe Yorùbá ti ó sọ pé “Aṣeni ṣe ara rẹ, asánbàǹtẹ́ so ara rẹ lókùn”, lati ìgbà ti àṣiri ìwà/ìjà-agbára ti “Ray Rice” hu ti tú, aṣeni ti ṣe ara rẹ nitori iṣẹ rẹ ti bọ́.
ENGLISH TRANSLATION
According to Yoruba Proverb as translated by (Oyekan Owomoyela) thus “It is against a person that one can handle that one is aggressive”. This proverb shows the evil of domestic violence that occurs often within family, particularly between “man and woman” or “husband and wife”. Domestic violence is not only to man against woman, it occurs between quarrelsome woman to man or a wife to the husband, but the most common domestic violence is against woman by man.
How can a person claim to be in love by committing act of violence against the person one claimed to love? Many of the domestic violence, is committed by the stronger person to the weaker one. The victim is often afraid to report because of fear of the perpetrator, particularly among husband and wife. The woman suffering domestic violence is often unable to leave the abuser or report because of these reasons: love for the abuser; hope of change; shame of people’s judgement; fear of divorce/intimidation; fear of being single and loosing financial benefit and the children involved in such home; getting used to the abuse; etc.
Bad temperament is the root cause of domestic violence. The consequence of domestic violence usually does not end well because such behaviour often cause: sudden deaths; mental illness; depression; going to prison; sorrow for the children involved; disgrace for the abuser etc. According to Yoruba Proverb as translated by (Oyekan Owomoyela) He who would hurt others hurts himself, he who wraps himself in a loincloth ties himself in a rope”. Since the exposure of the video showing “Ray Rice” committing act of violence against his fiancée, he has not only hurt his fiancée but himself too as it has cost him his job.
